Coaching practices for How to Move on From Death of a Parent

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• I know in my head that they’re gone, but it still hasn’t landed
• People keep telling me I need to let them go and move on, and everything in me refuses
• They handled the money, or the cooking, or were just the person I leaned on
• I want their life to keep meaning something in the world, not just end
• Everyone keeps telling me to move on and get over the loss, but the grief is huge and it won’t go

Practices that may help

1. Task 1: Accept the full reality of the loss
   Move from intellectual acknowledgement to full emotional acceptance that the person is gone.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
2. Task 4: Find an enduring connection with the deceased
   Relocate the relationship from physical presence to an internal, meaningful connection.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
3. Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
   Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
   Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical
4. Carry forward the person’s legacy in your own life
   Identify values, projects, or commitments the person cared about and carry them forward yourself.
   Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical
5. Treating grief as a form of gratitude
   When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
   Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things
6. Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
   Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
   Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical
7. Find a community that recognises your specific loss
   Seek out people who have experienced the same type of loss — online or in person.
   Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical
8. Speak or write to the person directly
   Address the deceased in letters, journal entries, or internal dialogue as a form of active continuing connection.
   Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical
9. Deliberately engage loss-oriented work
   Set aside dedicated time to directly face the grief — the emotions, the absence, the meaning of the loss.
   The Dual Process Model of Grief, Made Practical
10. Reframing loss as transformation
    When something ends or is lost, practise asking what it is becoming rather than only mourning what it was.
    Zhuangzi and the Practice of Perspective Shift

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