Coaching practices for Am I Being Asked to Lie in My Job

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• I’ve got the conversation booked but I’m staring at a blank page of questions, worried I’ll waste their time asking things I could’ve Googled
• Someone asks me a question I don’t actually have the answer to, and I feel the pull to bluff something confident rather than admit the gap
• I do my job competently and stay neatly inside my lane, and I sense that’s exactly why I’m read as just-a-role-filler
• My boss keeps checking in and hovering over my work, and it makes me feel untrusted
• When I don’t want to do something I dress it up as "I can’t"

Practices that may help

1. Prepare questions you genuinely don’t know the answer to
   Ask about the unwritten realities of the role — the things no job posting reveals.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
2. Say "I don’t know" when you genuinely don’t
   Admitting the limits of your knowledge signals intellectual honesty and raises long-term credibility.
   The Pratfall Effect, Made Practical
3. Expand your role through extra-role behavior
   Voluntarily take on work beyond your formal responsibilities to signal readiness for a higher-trust relationship.
   Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
4. Send proactive, brief status updates
   Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
5. Be Truthful: no lies, no exaggerations, no manufactured helplessness
   Say what is actually true — including when the truth is "I don’t want to" rather than "I can’t."
   FAST: DBT’s Skill for Maintaining Self-Respect in Relationships
6. Say no by reference to your priorities, not your schedule
   Decline non-essential requests by citing what matters more, not by claiming you lack time.
   Big Rocks First
7. Listen for what isn’t in the job description
   Focus on the texture of day-to-day work, not the official narrative.
   Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network
8. Disagree with your manager constructively
   State your disagreement clearly, give your reasoning, and then commit to the decision — without sacrificing either honesty or loyalty.
   Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
9. Run an accusation audit before difficult asks
   Name the worst things the other person might think about you or your request — before they do.
   Labeling Emotions in Negotiation, Made Practical
10. Practise your story before you need it
    Have a clear, genuine two-minute narrative about who you are and where you’re headed.
    Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network

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