Coaching practices for Ambition vs Ego Leadership

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  • I keep catching myself making calls based on how they’ll make me look rather than what’s actually best for the thing I’m building
  • The moment someone challenges my call I feel myself bristle and start building a case for why I’m right, and I’ve noticed people have basically stopped bringing me bad news
  • Part of me wants to keep my best people in roles that serve me and to pick a successor who won’t outshine me
  • Every task I start with "what do I get out of this," and when it goes sideways my ego takes it personally
  • I lead a team and I’ve realized the people I lean on most are the ones who remind me of myself or are just easy to be around

Practices that may help

  1. Channel ambition to the institution, not yourself
    Care more about the organization’s success than your personal legacy.
    Level 5 Leadership: Humility and Will in Great Leaders
  2. Check the ego
    Ego clouds judgment, blocks feedback, and turns disagreements into contests.
    Extreme Ownership, Made Practical
  3. Develop successors who will surpass you
    Invest in your successor’s success as a deliberate act of institutional ambition.
    Level 5 Leadership: Humility and Will in Great Leaders
  4. Shift from personal achievement to service orientation
    Ask not "what will I get from this?" but "who does this serve?"
    Karma Yoga: The Yoga of Selfless Action
  5. Manage LMX differentiation fairly as a leader
    Acknowledge that you develop different relationships with different people — and ensure the differences are earned, not arbitrary.
    Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical
  6. Shift the goal from high self-esteem to authentic self-regard
    Stop trying to feel good about yourself and start aiming for honest, compassionate self-knowledge.
    Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem
  7. Level 5 Leadership: Humility and Will in Great Leaders
    Jim Collins’ Good to Great research found that the leaders who took companies from good to great shared a paradoxical combination of fierce personal will and deep personal humility — what Collins calls Level 5 Leadership. They channeled ambition into the institution, not themselves, and set up successors for greatness rather than engineering dependence.
  8. Influence through persuasion, not positional power
    Build consensus and convince rather than command — authority is the last resort, not the first.
    Servant Leadership, Made Practical
  9. Distinguish your self from your role
    Separate who you are from the authority position you occupy — your role takes the heat, not you.
    Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
  10. Build people’s autonomy and capability
    The aim is people who need you less over time, not more.
    Servant Leadership, Made Practical

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