Coaching practices for Check the Ego Leadership
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- The moment someone challenges my call I feel myself bristle and start building a case for why I’m right, and I’ve noticed people have basically stopped bringing me bad news
- I keep catching myself making calls based on how they’ll make me look rather than what’s actually best for the thing I’m building
- I lead a team and I’ve realized the people I lean on most are the ones who remind me of myself or are just easy to be around
- When something goes wrong my first move is to find who dropped the ball, and when it goes well I quietly feel it was mostly me
- I stand up and tell my team what we value, but I’ve started to wonder whether my own choices actually match the words
Practices that may help
- Check the ego
Ego clouds judgment, blocks feedback, and turns disagreements into contests.
Extreme Ownership, Made Practical - Channel ambition to the institution, not yourself
Care more about the organization’s success than your personal legacy.
Level 5 Leadership: Humility and Will in Great Leaders - Manage LMX differentiation fairly as a leader
Acknowledge that you develop different relationships with different people — and ensure the differences are earned, not arbitrary.
Leader-Member Exchange (LMX), Made Practical - Look out the window for credit, in the mirror for blame
When things go well, credit others; when things go wrong, look at yourself first.
Level 5 Leadership: Humility and Will in Great Leaders - Model the values you expect (idealized influence)
Become a living example of the values you want your team to hold.
Transformational Leadership, Made Practical - Leading from behind — the servant leader stance
Influence others more through example, listening, and restraint than through assertion and command.
The Tao Te Ching, Made Practical - Signal credibility without claiming it
Let your knowledge show through questions and specifics, not through declarations of expertise.
The Trust Equation, Made Practical - There are no bad teams, only bad leaders
The same people perform differently under different leadership — so start with the leadership.
Extreme Ownership, Made Practical - Distinguish your self from your role
Separate who you are from the authority position you occupy — your role takes the heat, not you.
Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical - Apply the Stockdale Paradox to teams and leadership
As a leader or team member under pressure, model the simultaneous holding of faith and brutal facts — it is contagious in both directions.
The Stockdale Paradox, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Ambition Vs Ego Leadership
Care more about the organization’s success than your personal legacy.
Channel ambition to the institution, not yourself
- How Can I Become A Good Leader
Influence others more through example, listening, and restraint than through assertion and command.
Leading from behind — the servant leader stance
- Humble Leadership Communication
Jim Collins’ Good to Great research found that the leaders who took companies from good to great shared a paradoxical combination of fierce personal will and deep personal humility — what Collins calls Level 5 Leadership. They channeled ambition into the institution, not themselves, and set up successors for greatness rather than engineering dependence.
- Idealized Influence Leadership
Become a living example of the values you want your team to hold.
Model the values you expect (idealized influence)
- Identity Based Leadership
Separate who you are from the authority position you occupy — your role takes the heat, not you.
Distinguish your self from your role
- Leadership Integrity Examples
Become a living example of the values you want your team to hold.
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