Coaching practices for Approach vs Avoidance Goals in a New Job
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- Every single one of my goals is phrased as "don’t screw up," "stop being lazy," "don’t embarrass myself"
- Walking into the big moment, every goal in my head is phrased as "don’t mess this up, don’t embarrass yourself"
- Every goal I have is really about not being something
- I keep beating myself up for being so avoidant and negative about this one area, like it’s a character flaw
- There’s some specific disaster I’m bracing against with this goal
Practices that may help
- Approach vs Avoidance Goals
Approach goals move you toward a desired outcome ("get fit"); avoidance goals move you away from a feared one ("stop being lazy"). A substantial body of research finds that approach-framed goals are associated with better well-being, persistence, and performance — though avoidance framing can be useful when a threat is genuinely salient. - Reframe avoidance goals as approach goals
Translate "stop failing" into "get to X" so your system aims at a target instead of a threat.
Approach vs Avoidance Goals - Frame performance goals as approach rather than avoidance
Aim toward what you want to achieve, not away from what you want to avoid — the difference moves the cardiovascular needle.
Challenge vs. Threat Appraisal, Made Practical - Frame goals as approach targets, not avoidance
State what you are moving toward, not what you are trying to escape.
Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical - Use avoidance orientation as a diagnostic signal
When you notice avoidance framing dominating, treat it as data about an unmet need or real threat — not a character flaw.
Approach vs Avoidance Goals - Name the fear driving an avoidance goal
Surface the specific failure scenario an avoidance goal is bracing against.
Approach vs Avoidance Goals - Frame goals as approach-oriented rather than avoidance-oriented
"Become healthy" outperforms "stop being sedentary" — frame goals toward what you want, not away from what you fear.
Goal Systems Theory: How Goals Work Together (and Against Each Other) - Use learning goals instead of performance goals on novel tasks
When the skill is new, a "figure out how to do X" goal outperforms "achieve X by date."
Stretch Goals: When Ambitious Targets Help and When They Backfire - Use the anticipation of interaction to create liking before meeting
Knowing you will interact with someone in the future makes you evaluate them more positively before it happens.
The Propinquity Effect (Leon Festinger) - Frame advancement-oriented goals as gains to approach
Promotion-focused goals are best framed as opportunities to gain rather than obligations to fulfil.
Regulatory Focus Theory: Promotion vs Prevention Thinking
Related concerns
- Approach Vs Avoidance Goals
Approach goals move you toward a desired outcome ("get fit"); avoidance goals move you away from a feared one ("stop being lazy"). A substantial body of research finds that approach-framed goals are associated with better well-being, persistence, and performance — though avoidance framing can be useful when a threat is genuinely salient.
- Approach Vs Avoidance Goals At Work
Approach goals move you toward a desired outcome ("get fit"); avoidance goals move you away from a feared one ("stop being lazy"). A substantial body of research finds that approach-framed goals are associated with better well-being, persistence, and performance — though avoidance framing can be useful when a threat is genuinely salient.
- Approach Goal Framing
Approach goals move you toward a desired outcome ("get fit"); avoidance goals move you away from a feared one ("stop being lazy"). A substantial body of research finds that approach-framed goals are associated with better well-being, persistence, and performance — though avoidance framing can be useful when a threat is genuinely salient.
- Approach Vs Avoidance Goals After A Loss
Approach goals move you toward a desired outcome ("get fit"); avoidance goals move you away from a feared one ("stop being lazy"). A substantial body of research finds that approach-framed goals are associated with better well-being, persistence, and performance — though avoidance framing can be useful when a threat is genuinely salient.
- Approach Vs Avoidance Goals As A Caregiver
Approach goals move you toward a desired outcome ("get fit"); avoidance goals move you away from a feared one ("stop being lazy"). A substantial body of research finds that approach-framed goals are associated with better well-being, persistence, and performance — though avoidance framing can be useful when a threat is genuinely salient.
- Approach Vs Avoidance Goals Before Bed
Approach goals move you toward a desired outcome ("get fit"); avoidance goals move you away from a feared one ("stop being lazy"). A substantial body of research finds that approach-framed goals are associated with better well-being, persistence, and performance — though avoidance framing can be useful when a threat is genuinely salient.
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