Coaching practices for Asking a Previous Manager to Sign a Form at a Group Dinner
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- My boss keeps checking in and hovering over my work, and it makes me feel untrusted
- I keep handing my team finished plans and then can’t understand why they nod along but never really own it
- They happily agreed to the little thing, so I figured the bigger ask was in the bag
- When I do this alone in my head it’s too easy to let myself off the hook and skate past the uncomfortable parts
- Feedback in my one-on-ones only ever flows one way
Practices that may help
- Send proactive, brief status updates
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Invite clients or reports to contribute insight to your approach
Asking someone you lead for their input increases their investment in the outcome.
The Ben Franklin Effect, Made Practical - Keep the second request related to the first
The foot-in-the-door effect is strongest when the small and large asks share a category.
The Foot-in-the-Door Technique, Made Practical - Share the review with someone who will ask honest questions
A review held privately is easier to fudge; one shared with an honest questioner is harder to rationalize.
The Annual Review (Tim Ferriss Method) - Make feedback flow in both directions
Give timely, specific feedback — and ask for it on your own management.
Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical - Adapt to your manager’s communication style
Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Keep the same person making both requests
The door-in-the-face effect is substantially weaker when a different person makes the second ask.
The Door-in-the-Face Technique, Made Practical - DEAR MAN: making effective requests
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce — then Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate.
DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship - Let the report own the agenda
It’s their meeting — they bring what matters to them, and you adapt to it.
Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical - Reinforce by explaining the benefit to the other person
Tell the other person what is in it for them — or what the positive outcome looks like for both of you.
DEAR MAN: DBT’s Skill for Asking for What You Want Effectively
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Care personally means knowing the goal behind the job — not just what they’re working on, but why.
Learn what each person actually wants from their career and life
- Meeting With The Boss One On One But A Member Of Hr Will Be Attending
It’s their meeting — they bring what matters to them, and you adapt to it.
Let the report own the agenda
- What Do I Say To My Manager If He Asked Me About A Colleagues Raise
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
Send proactive, brief status updates
- Advice On Poor Communication With A Manager
Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
Adapt to your manager’s communication style
- Behavioral Request Relationship
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce — then Mindful, Appear confident, Negotiate.
DEAR MAN: making effective requests
- Boss Often Wants Me To Screen Share And Record From My Personal Computer
Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
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