Coaching practices for How to Know What Employees Want
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I realize I know exactly what each person on my team is working on this week but almost nothing about where they’re actually trying to get to in their life
- I keep hiring for the most impressive resume and then watching them work purely transactionally, and I want to start screening for whether someone actually believes in what we’re doing
- Someone comes to me upset and I dive straight into fixing it with advice, and only afterward do I realize they just wanted to be heard
- I keep handing my team finished plans and then can’t understand why they nod along but never really own it
- Feedback in my one-on-ones only ever flows one way
Practices that may help
- Learn what each person actually wants from their career and life
Care personally means knowing the goal behind the job — not just what they’re working on, but why.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Hire people who share the Why, not just the skills
Skills can be learned; shared belief cannot — filtering for Why-alignment at hiring is the highest-leverage culture move.
Start With Why: Leading Through Purpose - Ask "How can I help?" instead of assuming
Telling people how you’ll help before finding out what kind of help they want is one of the most common management errors.
The Coaching Habit: Seven Questions to Be More Coach-Like - Invite clients or reports to contribute insight to your approach
Asking someone you lead for their input increases their investment in the outcome.
The Ben Franklin Effect, Made Practical - Make feedback flow in both directions
Give timely, specific feedback — and ask for it on your own management.
Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical - Map your manager’s top three priorities
Know what your manager is measured on and being pressured about — your work lands differently when it connects to that.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Use genius mapping in onboarding
Surface a new hire’s geniuses early so you design their role around energy, not just skills.
The 6 Types of Working Genius (Patrick Lencioni) - Send proactive, brief status updates
Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss - Share advice with permission (ask–offer–ask)
Ask what they know, offer information with consent, then ask what they make of it.
Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical - Adapt to your manager’s communication style
Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
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Map your manager’s top three priorities
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Know what your manager is measured on and being pressured about — your work lands differently when it connects to that.
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Update your manager on important work before they ask — in the format and frequency they actually want.
Send proactive, brief status updates
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Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
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Build small, consistent touchpoints to keep acquaintances warm without heavy investment.
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