Coaching practices for Assertive Body Language

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• I say the firm thing but my voice goes up at the end like a question, my eyes drop, and I tack on a nervous little laugh
• Even when I’ve got the right words, my voice goes shaky and my sentences tilt up into questions, and the apology in my body
• Right before something nerve-wracking I want a quick body-based way to feel a notch more sure of myself
• I’ve read all the tips about eye contact and posture, but the harder I work to perform the right body language the more wooden I feel
• When I’m feeling low I notice I’m all folded in on myself

Practices that may help

1. Match your body to your words
   Assertive words undercut by passive body language read as a bluff.
   Assertiveness Training, Made Practical
2. Appear confident even when you don’t feel it
   Maintain eye contact, a level voice, and an upright posture — confidence is performed before it’s felt.
   DEAR MAN: DBT’s Skill for Asking for What You Want Effectively
3. Adopt expansive posture to shift subjective confidence
   Upright, open posture — not a "power pose" — reliably correlates with higher self-reported confidence, even if the hormone claims did not hold.
   Power Posing Revisited
4. Fix the inner state, not the outer mask
   Your body language broadcasts your real internal state — so change the state, not the surface.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
5. Reset to an upright, open posture
   Sit or stand tall with an open chest to give your brain different bodily evidence.
   Posture and Confidence, Honestly Explained
6. Posture and Confidence, Honestly Explained
   Adopting an upright, open posture is associated with modest improvements in mood, self-perception, and felt confidence — but the dramatic "power posing changes your hormones and risk-taking" claims largely failed to replicate, so be skeptical of those. Think of posture as a small, real nudge on how you feel, not a hormonal hack; this is general wellbeing information, not medical advice.
7. Willing hands and half-smile (acceptance through the body)
   Use open posture and a faint half-smile to signal acceptance to the body, when the mind can’t get there yet.
   Radical Acceptance, Made Practical
8. Posture and embodied confidence
   Getting stronger tends to change how you carry yourself — and that feeds back.
   Strength Training for Confidence
9. Build the strength that makes upright effortless
   Strengthen the postural muscles so an open posture is your default, not a constant effort.
   Posture and Confidence, Honestly Explained
10. Use voice pacing and tone as accessible, real-time confidence levers
    Speaking slowly, at moderate volume, with deliberate pauses signals confidence to listeners — and partially to yourself.
    Power Posing Revisited

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