Coaching practices for Body Language and Confidence

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• I’ve read all the tips about eye contact and posture, but the harder I work to perform the right body language the more wooden I feel
• Right before something nerve-wracking I want a quick body-based way to feel a notch more sure of myself
• Even when I’ve got the right words, my voice goes shaky and my sentences tilt up into questions, and the apology in my body
• When I’m nervous I talk fast and high and pile on "um" and "sorry" and "I think maybe"
• I keep waiting to feel confident before I’ll raise my hand or go for the thing, and the confidence never just shows up

Practices that may help

1. Fix the inner state, not the outer mask
   Your body language broadcasts your real internal state — so change the state, not the surface.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
2. Adopt expansive posture to shift subjective confidence
   Upright, open posture — not a "power pose" — reliably correlates with higher self-reported confidence, even if the hormone claims did not hold.
   Power Posing Revisited
3. Appear confident even when you don’t feel it
   Maintain eye contact, a level voice, and an upright posture — confidence is performed before it’s felt.
   DEAR MAN: DBT’s Skill for Asking for What You Want Effectively
4. Posture and Confidence, Honestly Explained
   Adopting an upright, open posture is associated with modest improvements in mood, self-perception, and felt confidence — but the dramatic "power posing changes your hormones and risk-taking" claims largely failed to replicate, so be skeptical of those. Think of posture as a small, real nudge on how you feel, not a hormonal hack; this is general wellbeing information, not medical advice.
5. Use voice pacing and tone as accessible, real-time confidence levers
   Speaking slowly, at moderate volume, with deliberate pauses signals confidence to listeners — and partially to yourself.
   Power Posing Revisited
6. Understand the "become it" claim accurately
   Sustained behavioral practice of confidence — acting as if — can build real self-efficacy over time, through mastery experiences rather than pose duration.
   Power Posing Revisited
7. Posture and embodied confidence
   Getting stronger tends to change how you carry yourself — and that feeds back.
   Strength Training for Confidence
8. Reset to an upright, open posture
   Sit or stand tall with an open chest to give your brain different bodily evidence.
   Posture and Confidence, Honestly Explained
9. Match your body to your words
   Assertive words undercut by passive body language read as a bluff.
   Assertiveness Training, Made Practical
10. Convey power
    Signal that you have the ability to affect the world — competence, status, or capability.
    The Charisma Myth, Made Practical

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