Coaching practices for Backup Behaviour Social Style
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- The moment things got tense this person turned into someone else
- On my own I skip this without a second thought, but when a friend is counting on me to show up, suddenly the time with them is the part I look forward to and the chore just comes along for the ride.
- After an awkward moment I’m convinced people will be replaying it about me for weeks
- I’m about to join a whole new group of people who have no idea who I’ve been
- The people I’m around most all live the opposite of what I’m trying to become
Practices that may help
- Recognise stress-driven backup behaviour
Under stress, everyone shifts to an exaggerated, less effective version of their dominant style.
Social Style Matrix: Adapting to How People Communicate - Bundle the should with social connection
Add a social element to an avoided behavior to make it rewarding in the moment through connection.
Temptation Bundling, Made Practical - Run the "did it matter?" check 24 hours later
Before assuming a social blunder is remembered, wait a day and ask if it was ever mentioned.
The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching - Use social transitions to change the norms around your behavior
When your social group changes, use the transition to adopt the behavioral norms of the new group rather than carrying old ones.
The Habit Discontinuity Effect - Surround yourself with people whose behaviors align with your health goals
Obesity, smoking, and exercise habits are socially contagious — the people around you are your health environment.
Blue Zone Principles: The Power 9 Longevity Practices - Invest in shared social networks
Spend time with people who affirm and are connected to both of you as a couple.
Relationship Maintenance Behaviors - Cope-ahead planning for high-stakes interactions
Rehearse a difficult conversation in detail — mentally and verbally — before it happens.
DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship - Use social opportunity — others who make the behavior normal
Position yourself in social contexts where your target behavior is modeled, expected, or easy to perform with others.
The COM-B Model and Behavior Change Wheel - Engineer your social environment to support the behaviors you want
The people around you are the most powerful environmental determinant of behavior — choose and structure social exposure intentionally.
Environment Design for Behavior Change - Use precommitment devices to lock in future behavior from a patient vantage point
Remove the option to defect when temptation peaks by committing now, before present bias activates.
Hyperbolic Discounting — Why Future You Always Gets the Short End
Related concerns
- Health Habits Social Contagion
Obesity, smoking, and exercise habits are socially contagious — the people around you are your health environment.
Surround yourself with people whose behaviors align with your health goals
- Prosocial Habit Building
Add a social element to an avoided behavior to make it rewarding in the moment through connection.
Bundle the should with social connection
- Social Transition Behavior
When your social group changes, use the transition to adopt the behavioral norms of the new group rather than carrying old ones.
Use social transitions to change the norms around your behavior
- Become A Regular Social Life
Returning to the same place on a predictable schedule is the simplest propinquity intervention available.
Become a regular somewhere
- How Social Norms Change Habits
When your social group changes, use the transition to adopt the behavioral norms of the new group rather than carrying old ones.
- New Social Environment Habits
When your social group changes, use the transition to adopt the behavioral norms of the new group rather than carrying old ones.
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