Coaching practices for Become a Regular Social Life

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I bounce around to a different café or gym every time, always chasing somewhere new, and I never become a familiar face anywhere
• I eat lunch at my desk alone most days and let weeks slip by without really seeing anyone, telling myself I’m too busy
• I’m about to join a whole new group of people who have no idea who I’ve been
• The people I’m around most all live the opposite of what I’m trying to become
• Some days go by where I never once actually connect with another human

Practices that may help

1. Become a regular somewhere
   Returning to the same place on a predictable schedule is the simplest propinquity intervention available.
   The Propinquity Effect (Leon Festinger)
2. Fill your social calendar intentionally
   Treat every meal, coffee, and event as a relationship-building opportunity and schedule them as such.
   Never Eat Alone: Building a Real Network
3. Use social transitions to change the norms around your behavior
   When your social group changes, use the transition to adopt the behavioral norms of the new group rather than carrying old ones.
   The Habit Discontinuity Effect
4. Surround yourself with people whose behaviors align with your health goals
   Obesity, smoking, and exercise habits are socially contagious — the people around you are your health environment.
   Blue Zone Principles: The Power 9 Longevity Practices
5. One warm connection a day
   Make at least one genuine, attentive contact with another person each day.
   The Good Life: Lessons from the Harvard Study
6. Practicing "social fitness"
   Tend your relationships like physical fitness — regularly, not only when something breaks.
   The Good Life: Lessons from the Harvard Study
7. Schedule social contact as a priority activity
   Treat social interaction as a prescribed activity, not as something to do when you feel ready.
   Pleasant Events Scheduling, Made Practical
8. Design your daily environment to create repeated exposure
   You cannot become friends with people you never run into — engineer the run-ins.
   The Propinquity Effect (Leon Festinger)
9. Invest in shared social networks
   Spend time with people who affirm and are connected to both of you as a couple.
   Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
10. Use social opportunity — others who make the behavior normal
    Position yourself in social contexts where your target behavior is modeled, expected, or easy to perform with others.
    The COM-B Model and Behavior Change Wheel

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