Coaching practices for Behavior vs Evaluation

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I have no real read on whether I’m actually doing this or just feel like I am
  • Every time I raise an issue with someone they get defensive and we end up arguing about whether they’re a good person instead of fixing the actual problem
  • I’m finally ready to actually do the thing I’ve been dreading and just watch what really happens
  • When I give someone feedback it slides into labeling who they are
  • Whenever something goes okay I find a way to explain it away

Practices that may help

  1. Install feedback loops to track behavior and adjust
    Measure the behavior directly and use the data to update your intervention, not just your motivation.
    The COM-B Model and Behavior Change Wheel
  2. Make feedback specific and behavioral, not evaluative
    Describe what you observed, not what it says about the person.
    The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
  3. Behavioral Experiments: Testing Beliefs in the Real World
    Behavioral experiments are planned real-world activities in CBT that directly test the accuracy of a negative belief or prediction. Instead of just challenging thoughts on paper, the person collects live evidence for or against the belief — and that experiential evidence is often more belief-changing than logical argument alone. They are a core and well-supported component of CBT for anxiety, depression, and related difficulties.
  4. Running the Experiment and Observing Results
    Do the planned activity, observe what actually happens, and record results immediately.
    Behavioral Experiments: Testing Beliefs in the Real World
  5. Feedback Loops and Behavior Change
    Feedback loops are the mechanism by which information about the gap between current and desired performance reaches the actor and drives adjustment. Cybernetics established the theoretical foundation; decades of applied research confirm that self-monitoring and feedback are among the most robust behavior-change techniques — particularly for health behaviors. The key design questions are feedback frequency, the right metric, and the gap between signal and response.
  6. Describe behavior, not character
    Say what the person did — actions, words — not what that says about who they are.
    The SBI Feedback Model, Made Practical
  7. Designing the Experiment
    Plan a real-world activity that will generate clear evidence for or against the belief.
    Behavioral Experiments: Testing Beliefs in the Real World
  8. Expectancy-Value Theory: Why You Try (or Don’t)
    Jacquelynne Eccles’s expectancy-value theory proposes that motivation to pursue a task is jointly determined by two factors: expectancy (your belief that you can succeed) and value (how much you care about success). Both are required — high value with low expectancy produces anxiety and avoidance; high expectancy with low value produces competent indifference. The theory has a substantial empirical base primarily in academic achievement contexts, with reasonable generalisation to broader life domains.
  9. Build psychological capability through knowledge and practice
    Acquire the understanding and self-regulatory skill the behavior demands before expecting consistent performance.
    The COM-B Model and Behavior Change Wheel
  10. Reviewing the Results and Extracting the Learning
    Explicitly connect what happened to what you believed — and update the belief accordingly.
    Behavioral Experiments: Testing Beliefs in the Real World

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