Coaching practices for Bias in Self Review

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• Whenever I review my own day I quietly spin everything to make myself look better, and I know it
• When I replay this in my own head I always land on the same tidy story, and some part of me suspects I’m protecting myself
• When I do this alone in my head it’s too easy to let myself off the hook and skate past the uncomfortable parts
• The moment I open a review or critical note, my guard slams up and I start mentally arguing back before I’ve even read it
• Every time I review how I acted today I catch myself building a defense

Practices that may help

1. Ask for clarity and honest perception
   Before reviewing, pause to ask for the capacity to see honestly rather than defensively.
   The Ignatian Examen: Five Movements of Daily Review
2. Include a trusted other in high-stakes AARs
   Self-conducted AARs have blind spots; a peer or coach who was not inside the event sees the causal story differently.
   After-Action Review: The US Army’s Tool for Continuous Learning
3. Share the review with someone who will ask honest questions
   A review held privately is easier to fudge; one shared with an honest questioner is harder to rationalize.
   The Annual Review (Tim Ferriss Method)
4. Affirm before receiving critical feedback
   Do a brief values reflection before reading a critical evaluation so you can take in the information rather than defend against it.
   Self-Affirmation Theory, Made Practical
5. Seneca’s evening court — judge the day as an honest prosecutor
   Review the day as a fair judge would: what was the evidence, what was the verdict, what is the sentence?
   The Pythagorean Evening Review
6. The three-question evening review
   Ask three questions before sleep: What did I do wrong? What did I succeed at? What could I have done better?
   The Pythagorean Evening Review
7. Use a challenge-calibration partner or coach
   Have a more skilled observer set the challenge level — your own assessment is biased.
   Growth-Edge Training: Practicing at the Edge of Your Ability
8. Seek accurate feedback, not exclusively positive feedback
   Train yourself to want feedback that is true over feedback that feels good.
   Self-Verification Theory, Made Practical
9. Mental filter (negative attention bias)
   Focus on one negative detail while ignoring the broader positive picture.
   Cognitive Distortions: The Thinking Errors Behind Anxiety and Depression
10. Rate each life domain with brutal honesty, not aspiration
    The wheel’s value is proportional to the honesty of your ratings — aspirational scores produce a pleasant picture that changes nothing.
    The Wheel of Life, Made Practical

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