Coaching practices for Building Positive Emotions Before Bed

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  • I lie down at night and my brain runs a highlight reel of everything I got wrong today
  • By bedtime I’m still buzzing from the day and I get into bed wired
  • Good things happen but I’m already onto the next thing before they even register
  • My days have flattened into nothing but obligations and dread, and there’s no good stuff banked anywhere
  • Every night before bed looks completely different depending on my mood

Practices that may help

  1. Building Positive Emotions, Made Practical
    Positive emotions can be cultivated deliberately through practices that vary what triggers them: gratitude, savoring, meaningful engagement, kindness, and awe are the most studied routes. Barbara Fredrickson’s broaden-and-build theory proposes that positive emotions expand thinking and build psychological resources over time — supported by observational research, though some specific claims (like the 3:1 ratio) have not replicated. The individual practices have varying but mostly real evidence bases.
  2. Write three good things and their causes each evening
    Before sleep, write three specific good things that happened and — crucially — why each one happened.
    Three Good Things: The Evidence-Based Gratitude Practice
  3. Evening yoga routine for sleep
    A gentle 15-minute yoga sequence 30–60 minutes before bed lowers cortisol and core temperature to accelerate sleep onset.
    Yoga for Stress: What the Research Shows
  4. Savoring positive experiences
    Slow down and linger in a pleasant experience — letting it register fully rather than rushing through or narrating it away.
    Building Positive Emotions, Made Practical
  5. Accumulate positive experiences
    Deliberately do things that generate positive emotion — building a reservoir that distress draws from.
    DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
  6. Anchor the wind-down with a consistent starting cue
    A repeated pre-sleep ritual — a specific tea, a book, a certain playlist — becomes a conditioned cue that induces sleepiness over time.
    The Wind-Down Routine: Engineering Your Path to Sleep
  7. Meaningful engagement
    Spend regular time doing something that generates both positive emotion and a sense of purpose.
    Building Positive Emotions, Made Practical
  8. Maintain positivity as a daily practice
    Be pleasant, cheerful, and avoid criticism as a baseline — not only when things are good.
    Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
  9. Three good things (what went well)
    Each night, write down three things that went well and why they went well.
    Positive Psychology, Made Practical
  10. Three good things
    Each evening, write three things that went well and why they happened.
    Gratitude Journaling, Done Well

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