Coaching practices for Buy Experiences Not Stuff
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- My instinct when I care about someone is to buy them a thing, but the stuff I’ve given just ends up in a drawer and forgotten
- I keep buying myself things expecting a lift and the thrill is gone within a week
- I keep spending my money on stuff
- When I do have money to spend beyond the basics I keep funneling it into more stuff that I’m bored of within a month, and some part of me senses I’d get far more lasting joy out of a trip or buying back my own time
- I finally do the big things I’d longed for, and then within months the whole experience fades into a vague "that was nice"
Practices that may help
- Give experiences, not objects
Treat someone to a shared experience rather than buying them a thing.
Prosocial Spending: Why Giving Boosts Happiness - Invest in experiences rather than possessions
Experiential spending produces more lasting happiness than material spending of equivalent cost.
Time Affluence Practices (Cassie Holmes) - Spend on experiences rather than possessions
Experiences resist adaptation better than objects because they exist as memories that improve over time.
The Hedonic Treadmill, Made Practical - Spend the enough on time and experiences, not the treadmill
When you do spend above enough, direct it where adaptation is slowest.
The Enough Mindset, Made Practical - Document experiences as you complete them
Write, photograph, or record completed items in enough detail to access the memory later — the memory is part of the value.
The Bucket List Method - Give in ways that strengthen social connection
Make your giving a moment of relationship, not a transaction.
Prosocial Spending: Why Giving Boosts Happiness - Cultivating simple pleasures deliberately
Build a reliable repertoire of simple, accessible, non-escalating pleasures and protect time for them.
Epicurean Philosophy: Practical Happiness - Apply the "value per dollar" test to major purchases
Before a large purchase, ask how much wellbeing per dollar this generates relative to alternatives at the same cost.
Values-Based Spending, Made Practical - Savor existing goods before pursuing more
Deliberately notice and extend the experience of present goods — before hedonic adaptation erases them.
The Mindset of Enough: Contentment Without Complacency - Seek direct contact with beauty, truth, or excellence
Deliberately expose yourself to things of genuine quality — great music, masterful work, natural beauty.
Peak Experiences and Self-Actualization
Related concerns
- Experiential Purchases
Experiential spending produces more lasting happiness than material spending of equivalent cost.
Invest in experiences rather than possessions
- Do Purchases Make You Happy
Elizabeth Dunn and Michael Norton’s research found that spending money on others — "prosocial spending" — reliably produces more happiness than spending the same amount on oneself, across income levels and cultures. The effect is real and replicates, though it is not unlimited: how you give matters as much as whether you give.
- Does Buying Things Make You Happy
Elizabeth Dunn and Michael Norton’s research found that spending money on others — "prosocial spending" — reliably produces more happiness than spending the same amount on oneself, across income levels and cultures. The effect is real and replicates, though it is not unlimited: how you give matters as much as whether you give.
- Experiences Vs Things
Experiences resist adaptation better than objects because they exist as memories that improve over time.
Spend on experiences rather than possessions
- Experiential Spending Research
Experiential spending produces more lasting happiness than material spending of equivalent cost.
- Gifts Vs Materialism
Treat someone to a shared experience rather than buying them a thing.
Give experiences, not objects
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