Coaching practices for Calibration Training During Conflict

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• My real decisions take months to resolve and matter too much for me to score them honestly, so I never get clean reps
• There’s one area I consider myself an expert in, and that’s exactly where I’m most stubbornly sure and most often wrong
• I make calls about how things will go all the time, but I never write them down or check them after
• I can feel the conversation revving up
• The second things get tense I snap into the same move every time without choosing it

Practices that may help

1. Calibration Training
   Calibration training teaches you to match your stated confidence levels to your actual accuracy: if you say "70% confident," roughly 70% of those claims should turn out to be correct. Tetlock’s forecasting research and probability training studies show calibration is trainable with practice and feedback — the evidence here is specific and replicable.
2. Build calibration reps with low-stakes trivia and almanac questions
   Use factual trivia questions as a practice ground for calibration — outcomes resolve immediately and the stakes are zero.
   Calibration Training
3. Identify the specific domains where you are most overconfident
   Calibration is domain-specific — find where your confidence most exceeds your accuracy.
   Calibration Training
4. Calibrated Questions, Made Practical
   Calibrated questions are open "How" and "What" questions that hand the other party a problem to solve, letting you steer a negotiation or difficult conversation without commands or ultimatums. The technique comes from Chris Voss’s FBI hostage-negotiation work; its mechanism is grounded in autonomy psychology, though the specific scripts are practitioner craft rather than a lab-validated protocol.
5. Calibration practice
   Predict your performance before each retrieval test, then compare prediction to outcome.
   Self-Regulated Learning: Taking Control of How You Learn
6. Score your own past predictions to calibrate your outside-view use
   Keep a forecast log and score it — you cannot improve calibration without feedback on where you were over- or under-confident.
   The Outside View
7. Regulate your tone
   A calm, downward, unhurried voice slows everyone’s nervous system, including yours.
   Tactical Empathy
8. Identify your default conflict mode
   Before you can choose a mode, you have to know which one you use automatically.
   The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI)
9. Label emotions during conflict to reduce escalation
   Name your own and the other person’s emotional state during a tense conversation to prevent escalation.
   Name It to Tame It: Affect Labeling in Practice
10. Graduated anger inoculation (stress inoculation exposure)
    Practice coping with anger in imagination — from mild triggers to intense ones — before you face them live.
    Novaco Anger Management, Made Practical

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