Coaching practices for Candidate Brought Parent to Interview
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- They tell me what kind of parent or partner they want to be, and it’s miles from how they’re actually living
- The conversation goes great and then it just...
- Even when I sit down to play with my kid I catch myself steering it
- All day my kid keeps coming to show me things and I keep saying "in a minute" because I’m busy, and then the moment I need them to cooperate they dig in
- I want to invite someone to try a new approach, and I sense it would land far better if they first connected it to how they already see themselves
Practices that may help
- Develop discrepancy between values and behavior
Gently hold up the gap between what the person wants and what they’re doing.
Motivational Interviewing, Made Practical - Close every informational interview with one forward step
End by asking: "Is there someone else you think I should talk to?"
Informational Interviews: Career Research That Builds Your Network - Follow the child’s lead completely during special time
Let the child decide what you do, how long you stay, and when you move on.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Say yes to bids for connection before enforcing limits
A child’s capacity to accept limits depends on how connected they feel to the person setting them.
Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind) - Prime identity before the ask — "what kind of person are you?"
Invite the person to describe who they are in terms that align with the behavior you’re requesting.
Pre-Suasion, Made Practical - Sportscast what you see rather than directing
Narrate the play without evaluation, question, or instruction.
Special Time (Lawrence Cohen — Playful Parenting) - Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Collaborative Problem Solving (Ross Greene) - Use experiential recognition to highlight strengths in the moment
Catch the child demonstrating a virtue and name the virtue directly.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Cultivate a "yes brain": curiosity, courage, and resilience over reactivity
Respond to the child’s world with curiosity and openness rather than threat and control.
The Whole-Brain Child (Siegel & Bryson) - Talk with your child about their day and interests
Genuine conversational interest builds vocabulary, trust, and the relationship buffer that makes limits land without conflict.
Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
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Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
Use Plan B: the three-step collaborative conversation
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Empathize with the child’s concern, share yours, and invite them to solve it together.
- How To Encourage My Daughter To Be More Social
Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
- Parent Child Conversation
Genuine conversational interest builds vocabulary, trust, and the relationship buffer that makes limits land without conflict.
Talk with your child about their day and interests
- Active Constructive Responding As A Parent
Narrate what the child is doing right in real time, even when it is unremarkable.
Deliver active recognition of ordinary positive moments
- Advise Pls On How To Raise Trilingual Kid
Genuine conversational interest builds vocabulary, trust, and the relationship buffer that makes limits land without conflict.
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