Coaching practices for Check the Facts as a Caregiver
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Okay, I’ve sorted out whether the feeling fits
- I’ve looked at it from every angle and I still can’t tell whether I’m genuinely being wronged here or whether my reaction is way bigger than the situation deserves
- My mind keeps stacking up every reason I’m right that this went badly, and I can’t seem to see anything that points the other way
- Someone read my message and didn’t reply, and now I’m spun up and certain they’re angry at me
- There’s an area of my life
Practices that may help
- Check the Facts, Made Practical
"Check the facts" is a DBT emotion regulation skill for testing whether an emotion is justified by the actual situation or whether it is firing based on an interpretation — a story the mind has added. The underlying mechanism (examining the evidence for a belief) is the same as cognitive restructuring in CBT, which has strong randomized-trial support for anxiety and depression. DBT packages it specifically as a regulation tool, to be used when the emotion may not fit the facts. - Decide on a regulation strategy based on what the facts actually show
Use the outcome of checking the facts to choose the right next step — not the same step every time.
Check the Facts, Made Practical - Ask whether the emotion fits the facts
After checking, decide whether your emotion is warranted by the actual facts — not the interpretation.
Check the Facts, Made Practical - Examine the evidence for and against
Systematically list what supports your interpretation and what doesn’t — like a fair-minded lawyer, not a prosecutor.
Check the Facts, Made Practical - Check the facts
Before acting on an emotion, ask whether your interpretation of the situation actually fits the evidence.
DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical - The practice of living consciously
Bring awareness to what you are doing and seeing, rather than acting on autopilot or avoidance.
The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical - Ask "why is this true?" of every fact
After reading a fact, stop and answer why it would be the case before moving on.
Elaborative Interrogation: Ask "Why Is This True?" - Name the emotion and what triggered it
Start by identifying the emotion specifically and the event that preceded it — without mixing interpretation in.
Check the Facts, Made Practical - Check for catastrophizing
Test whether you are amplifying the likely outcome beyond what the evidence supports.
Check the Facts, Made Practical - Revise the card as your beliefs update
A card written six months ago may not reflect your current evidence — review and revise quarterly.
The Coping Card
Related concerns
- Check The Facts When Overwhelmed
Name the most uncomfortable true things about your current situation before acting, planning, or optimizing.
Confront the brutal facts — regularly and specifically
- Check The Facts As A Parent
"Check the facts" is a DBT emotion regulation skill for testing whether an emotion is justified by the actual situation or whether it is firing based on an interpretation — a story the mind has added. The underlying mechanism (examining the evidence for a belief) is the same as cognitive restructuring in CBT, which has strong randomized-trial support for anxiety and depression. DBT packages it specifically as a regulation tool, to be used when the emotion may not fit the facts.
- Check The Facts Dbt
"Check the facts" is a DBT emotion regulation skill for testing whether an emotion is justified by the actual situation or whether it is firing based on an interpretation — a story the mind has added. The underlying mechanism (examining the evidence for a belief) is the same as cognitive restructuring in CBT, which has strong randomized-trial support for anxiety and depression. DBT packages it specifically as a regulation tool, to be used when the emotion may not fit the facts.
- Check The Facts When Burned Out
Honestly assess how much fuel each of the four domains is receiving right now.
Name which burners are actually on
- Check Facts Then Act Dbt
"Check the facts" is a DBT emotion regulation skill for testing whether an emotion is justified by the actual situation or whether it is firing based on an interpretation — a story the mind has added. The underlying mechanism (examining the evidence for a belief) is the same as cognitive restructuring in CBT, which has strong randomized-trial support for anxiety and depression. DBT packages it specifically as a regulation tool, to be used when the emotion may not fit the facts.
- Check The Facts At Work
"Check the facts" is a DBT emotion regulation skill for testing whether an emotion is justified by the actual situation or whether it is firing based on an interpretation — a story the mind has added. The underlying mechanism (examining the evidence for a belief) is the same as cognitive restructuring in CBT, which has strong randomized-trial support for anxiety and depression. DBT packages it specifically as a regulation tool, to be used when the emotion may not fit the facts.
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