Coaching practices for Check the Facts When Overwhelmed

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• I keep looking away from the parts of this situation that actually scare me, telling myself the comfortable version, and then I make plans on top of a picture I know deep down isn’t the real one
• My mind keeps stacking up every reason I’m right that this went badly, and I can’t seem to see anything that points the other way
• Okay, I’ve sorted out whether the feeling fits
• Someone read my message and didn’t reply, and now I’m spun up and certain they’re angry at me
• One worrying thing happens and my mind sprints straight to the absolute worst-case ending

Practices that may help

1. Confront the brutal facts — regularly and specifically
   Name the most uncomfortable true things about your current situation before acting, planning, or optimizing.
   The Stockdale Paradox, Made Practical
2. Examine the evidence for and against
   Systematically list what supports your interpretation and what doesn’t — like a fair-minded lawyer, not a prosecutor.
   Check the Facts, Made Practical
3. Decide on a regulation strategy based on what the facts actually show
   Use the outcome of checking the facts to choose the right next step — not the same step every time.
   Check the Facts, Made Practical
4. Check the Facts, Made Practical
   "Check the facts" is a DBT emotion regulation skill for testing whether an emotion is justified by the actual situation or whether it is firing based on an interpretation — a story the mind has added. The underlying mechanism (examining the evidence for a belief) is the same as cognitive restructuring in CBT, which has strong randomized-trial support for anxiety and depression. DBT packages it specifically as a regulation tool, to be used when the emotion may not fit the facts.
5. Check the facts
   Before acting on an emotion, ask whether your interpretation of the situation actually fits the evidence.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
6. Check for catastrophizing
   Test whether you are amplifying the likely outcome beyond what the evidence supports.
   Check the Facts, Made Practical
7. Rumble with the story you’re telling yourself
   Name the conspiracy your mind invents in a hard moment, then check it against the facts.
   Daring Greatly, Made Practical
8. Ask whether the emotion fits the facts
   After checking, decide whether your emotion is warranted by the actual facts — not the interpretation.
   Check the Facts, Made Practical
9. Slow down belief updates triggered by alarming news
   When new information is alarming, wait 48 hours and check a second independent source before acting.
   Availability Cascades: How Fears Spread and Inflate
10. Name the emotion and what triggered it
    Start by identifying the emotion specifically and the event that preceded it — without mixing interpretation in.
    Check the Facts, Made Practical

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