Coaching practices for Check the Facts When Burned Out

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• I tell myself my family comes first, but when I look at where my week actually went it was almost all work, and I can’t square the story I tell with where the hours really landed.
• Someone read my message and didn’t reply, and now I’m spun up and certain they’re angry at me
• My mind keeps stacking up every reason I’m right that this went badly, and I can’t seem to see anything that points the other way
• Okay, I’ve sorted out whether the feeling fits
• I act like every single thing has to be done by me, and I’m drowning

Practices that may help

1. Name which burners are actually on
   Honestly assess how much fuel each of the four domains is receiving right now.
   Four Burners Theory: Making Peace With Trade-Offs
2. Check the Facts, Made Practical
   "Check the facts" is a DBT emotion regulation skill for testing whether an emotion is justified by the actual situation or whether it is firing based on an interpretation — a story the mind has added. The underlying mechanism (examining the evidence for a belief) is the same as cognitive restructuring in CBT, which has strong randomized-trial support for anxiety and depression. DBT packages it specifically as a regulation tool, to be used when the emotion may not fit the facts.
3. Check the facts
   Before acting on an emotion, ask whether your interpretation of the situation actually fits the evidence.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
4. Examine the evidence for and against
   Systematically list what supports your interpretation and what doesn’t — like a fair-minded lawyer, not a prosecutor.
   Check the Facts, Made Practical
5. Decide on a regulation strategy based on what the facts actually show
   Use the outcome of checking the facts to choose the right next step — not the same step every time.
   Check the Facts, Made Practical
6. Outsource or delegate to keep a burner lit without your direct fuel
   Find ways to maintain a domain’s floor through systems, others, or automation rather than your direct effort.
   Four Burners Theory: Making Peace With Trade-Offs
7. Check for catastrophizing
   Test whether you are amplifying the likely outcome beyond what the evidence supports.
   Check the Facts, Made Practical
8. Set a non-negotiable floor for each burner
   Define the minimum for each domain that, if crossed, signals an emergency — and protect those floors.
   Four Burners Theory: Making Peace With Trade-Offs
9. Ask whether the emotion fits the facts
   After checking, decide whether your emotion is warranted by the actual facts — not the interpretation.
   Check the Facts, Made Practical
10. Analyze your log for patterns and surprises
    After logging, find the two or three surprising facts — not the obvious ones.
    The Time Audit

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