Coaching practices for Clarifying Goals Therapy

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I’m busy chasing things but half of them feel like what I’m supposed to want, not what I actually do
  • Everything I say I want is really a thing I want to stop
  • Every time I set goals they end up being what I think I’m supposed to want
  • When someone I’m coaching brings me a topic, we just end up circling it and venting
  • I keep saying I want things to "get better" or to "do better," but it’s so fuzzy I can’t even tell what moving toward it would look like

Practices that may help

  1. Values clarification
    Name the directions you want your life to move in, distinct from goals you can check off.
    Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Made Practical
  2. Using the Miracle Question for Goal Clarification
    Apply the miracle question to clarify the real goal underneath an initially stated complaint or problem.
    The Miracle Question: Designing Your Life Without the Problem
  3. Excavate core values before writing goals
    Identify what you most fundamentally care about before deciding what you want — or goals will be other people’s.
    The Life Crafting Intervention: Scripting Your Future Self
  4. Clarify the Goal with precision
    Establish exactly what the person wants to achieve — not the presenting topic, but the specific, owned outcome.
    The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
  5. Clarify the goal with enough specificity to route toward it
    Hope requires a clear enough destination that routes can be mapped; a vague wish cannot anchor pathways thinking.
    Hope Theory: Agency, Pathways, and Getting Unstuck
  6. Set the Goal — establish what the conversation is for
    Begin every coaching conversation by clarifying what the person wants to achieve in this session.
    The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
  7. One-minute goals: write them short enough to re-read in a minute
    A goal that cannot be stated on a single page is too vague to be evaluated or acted on.
    The One Minute Manager: Three Practices That Still Work
  8. Three-goals prioritization: objective, relationship, or self-respect?
    Before entering a difficult conversation, decide which of the three goals matters most right now.
    DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness: Getting What You Need Without Destroying the Relationship
  9. Preferred Future: Describing Life When the Problem Is Solved
    Ask the person to describe in concrete, behavioral detail what life looks like when things are better.
    Solution-Focused Brief Therapy: Building On What Works
  10. Report against specific, verifiable commitments
    Tell your partner exactly what you will do, so "progress" can be confirmed, not fudged.
    Accountability Partners

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