Coaching practices for Closeness Communication Bias in a New Job
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- I’m about to walk into a new job and a new neighborhood, and I’m already bracing for it to be awkward, rehearsing how they probably won’t take to me
- I walk away from conversations certain I made myself clear, and then days later it turns out my partner heard something completely different
- With new people I try to fast-forward to being close
- We only ever find out we heard the same conversation two completely different ways once it’s already blown up into resentment
- I’m starting to work closely with someone whose communication style is clearly far from mine, and I’m exhausted by the idea of silently decoding and adjusting to them for months
Practices that may help
- Closeness-Communication Bias
Closeness-communication bias is the tendency to communicate less carefully with people we know well, assuming they will understand us because they know us. Boaz Keysar and colleagues showed in controlled experiments that closeness does not actually improve communication accuracy — it only increases confidence that we’ve been understood, creating a gap between perceived and actual clarity that is largest in our most important relationships. - Use the anticipation of interaction to create liking before meeting
Knowing you will interact with someone in the future makes you evaluate them more positively before it happens.
The Propinquity Effect (Leon Festinger) - Default to assuming you’ve been misunderstood
After any important message, assume it landed differently than you intended — then check.
Closeness-Communication Bias - Earn the right to deepen the relationship in stages
Trust compounds over time — start with technical credibility and expand into intimacy as it is earned.
The Trust Equation, Made Practical - Do a post-conversation accuracy check
After important conversations, compare what each person thought was communicated.
Closeness-Communication Bias - Directing — high direction for the eager novice
With someone new and keen but unskilled, give clear, specific instruction and tight structure.
Situational Leadership, Made Practical - Bridge the style gap explicitly
Name the difference in communication style directly rather than trying to adapt silently.
High-Context and Low-Context Communication - Adjust for your egocentric starting point
Actively consider how your message looks from a perspective that does not share your context.
Closeness-Communication Bias - Calibrate mirroring to cultural and individual norms
What reads as warm attunement in one cultural context reads as intrusive or mocking in another.
Mirroring and Matching, Made Practical - Read behavioral cues before you communicate
Observe pace, directness, and relationship-focus before deciding how to open.
DISC Behavioral Styles
Related concerns
- Closeness Communication Bias When Starting Out
Closeness-communication bias is the tendency to communicate less carefully with people we know well, assuming they will understand us because they know us. Boaz Keysar and colleagues showed in controlled experiments that closeness does not actually improve communication accuracy — it only increases confidence that we’ve been understood, creating a gap between perceived and actual clarity that is largest in our most important relationships.
- Closeness Communication Bias At Work
Closeness-communication bias is the tendency to communicate less carefully with people we know well, assuming they will understand us because they know us. Boaz Keysar and colleagues showed in controlled experiments that closeness does not actually improve communication accuracy — it only increases confidence that we’ve been understood, creating a gap between perceived and actual clarity that is largest in our most important relationships.
- Egocentric Communication Adjustment
Actively consider how your message looks from a perspective that does not share your context.
Adjust for your egocentric starting point
- Closeness Communication Bias
Closeness-communication bias is the tendency to communicate less carefully with people we know well, assuming they will understand us because they know us. Boaz Keysar and colleagues showed in controlled experiments that closeness does not actually improve communication accuracy — it only increases confidence that we’ve been understood, creating a gap between perceived and actual clarity that is largest in our most important relationships.
- Closeness Communication Bias During A Big Change
Closeness-communication bias is the tendency to communicate less carefully with people we know well, assuming they will understand us because they know us. Boaz Keysar and colleagues showed in controlled experiments that closeness does not actually improve communication accuracy — it only increases confidence that we’ve been understood, creating a gap between perceived and actual clarity that is largest in our most important relationships.
- Present Bias Communication
After any important message, assume it landed differently than you intended — then check.
Default to assuming you’ve been misunderstood
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