Coaching practices for Common Humanity in a New Job
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- When I’m down on myself, "other people struggle too" just bounces off
- Right now, in this exact ache, I feel cut off from everyone
- Someone on my team is clearly going through something heavy and I’ve just been carrying on talking deliverables like nothing’s wrong
- When I mess up, it doesn’t just feel bad
- I’ve got a new hire starting and the lazy move is to just hand them whatever’s piled up in the backlog
Practices that may help
- Common Humanity, Made Practical
Common humanity — one of the three components of Kristin Neff's self-compassion framework — is the recognition that suffering, failure, and inadequacy are universal human experiences, not personal defects. Activating this awareness interrupts shame's isolating story and reduces its intensity. It has observational support as a component of the self-compassion construct and is taught across evidence-based programs including MSC. - Finish the sentence: "Others also feel this when..."
Complete a specific bridge between your pain and others' shared experience.
Common Humanity, Made Practical - Shared condition meditation
Sit briefly with the awareness that right now, thousands of people are feeling exactly what you feel.
Common Humanity, Made Practical - Show up for the person, not just the deliverable
Acknowledge what is happening in someone’s life when it is clearly affecting them — before addressing the work.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Connect to common humanity in moments of failure
When you fail or suffer, remind yourself that this is a shared human experience — not your personal deficit.
Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem - Use genius mapping in onboarding
Surface a new hire’s geniuses early so you design their role around energy, not just skills.
The 6 Types of Working Genius (Patrick Lencioni) - Use the anticipation of interaction to create liking before meeting
Knowing you will interact with someone in the future makes you evaluate them more positively before it happens.
The Propinquity Effect (Leon Festinger) - Use social transitions to change the norms around your behavior
When your social group changes, use the transition to adopt the behavioral norms of the new group rather than carrying old ones.
The Habit Discontinuity Effect - Learn what each person actually wants from their career and life
Care personally means knowing the goal behind the job — not just what they’re working on, but why.
Caring Personally: The Foundation of Radical Candor - Share a struggle to discover shared ground
Name a difficulty to someone you trust and notice that disclosure creates connection rather than rejection.
Common Humanity, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Common Humanity As A Caregiver
Common humanity — one of the three components of Kristin Neff's self-compassion framework — is the recognition that suffering, failure, and inadequacy are universal human experiences, not personal defects. Activating this awareness interrupts shame's isolating story and reduces its intensity. It has observational support as a component of the self-compassion construct and is taught across evidence-based programs including MSC.
- Common Humanity As A Parent
Common humanity — one of the three components of Kristin Neff's self-compassion framework — is the recognition that suffering, failure, and inadequacy are universal human experiences, not personal defects. Activating this awareness interrupts shame's isolating story and reduces its intensity. It has observational support as a component of the self-compassion construct and is taught across evidence-based programs including MSC.
- Common Humanity At Work
Common humanity — one of the three components of Kristin Neff's self-compassion framework — is the recognition that suffering, failure, and inadequacy are universal human experiences, not personal defects. Activating this awareness interrupts shame's isolating story and reduces its intensity. It has observational support as a component of the self-compassion construct and is taught across evidence-based programs including MSC.
- Common Humanity Compassion
Common humanity — one of the three components of Kristin Neff's self-compassion framework — is the recognition that suffering, failure, and inadequacy are universal human experiences, not personal defects. Activating this awareness interrupts shame's isolating story and reduces its intensity. It has observational support as a component of the self-compassion construct and is taught across evidence-based programs including MSC.
- Common Humanity During A Big Change
Sit briefly with the awareness that right now, thousands of people are feeling exactly what you feel.
Shared condition meditation
- Common Humanity For My Teenager
Common humanity — one of the three components of Kristin Neff's self-compassion framework — is the recognition that suffering, failure, and inadequacy are universal human experiences, not personal defects. Activating this awareness interrupts shame's isolating story and reduces its intensity. It has observational support as a component of the self-compassion construct and is taught across evidence-based programs including MSC.
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