Coaching practices for Competing Values

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I’ve got a short list of values but they’re all just sitting there as equals, and the second two of them collide in real life
• I’m torn between two things I care about
• I’m frozen on a decision where honoring one thing I care about means shortchanging another
• If you ask me what I value I’ll say family, health, honesty, growth
• I keep butting heads with someone over what each of us wants, and we’re stuck trading positions back and forth

Practices that may help

1. Rank your top values
   Force a strict order among your finalists so conflicts resolve in advance.
   Values Clarification, Made Practical
2. Use the bullseye to resolve competing values
   When two values pull in different directions, the bullseye shows you which domain is most neglected and most in need of attention.
   Values Bullseye, Made Practical
3. Resolving a decision with two competing values
   When two values both apply, use your ranked priority to resolve the tension rather than freeze.
   Values Card Sort
4. The forced-rank sort
   Write your top 20 candidate values on cards, then sort them ruthlessly until you have a ranked top five.
   Values Card Sort
5. Using values questions to deepen a conversation
   Ask "what matters most to you about this?" to surface values rather than surface preferences.
   Values Card Sort
6. Trade across differing priorities
   Give on what you value less to get what you value more — and have them do the same.
   Win-Win Thinking: Expanding the Pie
7. Surface goal conflicts before they undermine each other
   Goals that compete for the same time or emotional bandwidth will suppress each other — make the conflict explicit.
   Goal Systems Theory: How Goals Work Together (and Against Each Other)
8. Mapping shared and divergent values in a relationship
   Do the card sort alongside someone important to you and compare — do not assume your rankings match.
   Values Card Sort
9. Competing (assertive, uncooperative)
   Pursue your own position firmly when speed, principle, or stakes outweigh the relationship cost.
   The Five Conflict-Resolution Styles
10. Align on core values — where they are shared and where they differ
    Map which values you genuinely share and which you each hold separately — without requiring convergence.
    The Shared Meaning System

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