Coaching practices for Core Beliefs After Loss

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• Since they died, the whole ground I stood on is gone
• It’s been long enough that I can quietly admit something in me has shifted since they died
• I can see where this belief about myself came from
• I want their life to keep meaning something in the world, not just end
• No reframe of this is going to work, because what happened really did happen

Practices that may help

1. Map the assumptive world the loss disrupted
   Identify which of your core beliefs about life, self, and the future the loss has challenged.
   Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical
2. Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
   Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
   Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical
3. Compassionate reframing of the core belief’s origin
   Understand how the core belief made sense when it formed, as a first step to loosening its grip.
   The Downward Arrow: Uncovering the Core Beliefs Behind Distress
4. Carry forward the person’s legacy in your own life
   Identify values, projects, or commitments the person cared about and carry them forward yourself.
   Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical
5. Revise global beliefs when they are genuinely wrong
   When a belief is demonstrably inaccurate — not just painful — update it rather than defending it against evidence.
   Meaning-Making Coping, Made Practical
6. Reconstruct your identity post-loss
   Actively develop the new self that emerges when a core relationship or role is gone.
   Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical
7. Examine stuck points across the five disrupted domains
   CPT organizes trauma-disrupted beliefs into five domains — Safety, Trust, Power, Esteem, Intimacy — to ensure none are missed.
   Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT): Unsticking the Meanings That Maintain PTSD
8. Installation of the Positive Cognition
   Once distress has cleared, strengthen the preferred self-belief with bilateral stimulation.
   EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing
9. Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical
   Robert Neimeyer’s meaning reconstruction model holds that significant loss shatters the assumptive world — the implicit beliefs about self, others, and the future on which daily life depends — and that healthy grief requires rebuilding a coherent, meaningful life narrative that can integrate the loss. This framework is supported by observational research on grief outcomes and underpins narrative grief therapies with growing trial evidence.
10. Treating grief as a form of gratitude
    When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
    Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things

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