Coaching practices for How to Heal After Losing the Love of Your Life
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- Everyone keeps telling me to move on and get over the loss, but the grief is huge and it won’t go
- My partner has become so much a part of the furniture of my life that I barely register them anymore, and I catch myself being short or distracted
- So much of who I was lived in being their wife, their caregiver, the one they called
- Since they died, the whole ground I stood on is gone
- There’s one moment when I needed them and they weren’t there, and even though it was a while ago it still sits between us
Practices that may help
- Treating grief as a form of gratitude
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Mono no Aware: The Pathos of Things - Imagine the absence of a key relationship
Vividly imagine your life without a person you love — specifically, in detail, what would be missing.
Negative Visualization for Gratitude: The Stoic Path to Appreciation - Reconstruct your identity post-loss
Actively develop the new self that emerges when a core relationship or role is gone.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Map the assumptive world the loss disrupted
Identify which of your core beliefs about life, self, and the future the loss has challenged.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Revisit a hurtful moment -- and repair it
Going back to a painful past moment together, with new understanding, is how attachment injuries heal.
Hold Me Tight: Sue Johnson's Seven Conversations for Lasting Love - Find a community that recognises your specific loss
Seek out people who have experienced the same type of loss — online or in person.
Disenfranchised Grief, Made Practical - Task 3: Adjust to a world without the person
Actively develop new skills, roles, and identity elements to navigate the changed life.
Worden’s Tasks of Mourning, Made Practical - Look honestly for what has grown or changed for the better
Without minimising the loss, notice any growth, change, or perspective that has emerged from it.
Meaning Reconstruction in Grief, Made Practical - Repair quickly and thoroughly
Don’t let injuries accumulate — repair within hours or days, not weeks.
Secure-Functioning Relationships - Carry forward the person’s legacy in your own life
Identify values, projects, or commitments the person cared about and carry them forward yourself.
Continuing Bonds in Grief, Made Practical
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- How Did You Get Over Losing The Love Of Your Life
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
Treating grief as a form of gratitude
- How To Get Over Losing The Love Of Your Life
Vividly imagine your life without a person you love — specifically, in detail, what would be missing.
Imagine the absence of a key relationship
- How To Get Through Losing The Love Of Your Life
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
- How To Move On From Losing A Loved One
When something ends and you feel grief, recognise that the grief is proportional to the love — and let it be both.
- What To Do When You Lose The Love Of Your Life
Vividly imagine your life without a person you love — specifically, in detail, what would be missing.
- Who Am I After Loss
Actively develop the new self that emerges when a core relationship or role is gone.
Reconstruct your identity post-loss
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