Coaching practices for Credit and Blame Leadership

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• When something goes wrong my first move is to find who dropped the ball, and when it goes well I quietly feel it was mostly me
• My team dropped the ball again and my first instinct is to point at them or at circumstances
• When the team debriefs and credit gets handed around, I instantly downplay my part
• The whole thing has become a tug-of-war over whose fault it is
• When something goes wrong my first move is to find whose fault it was, and being right about that leaves me stuck

Practices that may help

1. Look out the window for credit, in the mirror for blame
   When things go well, credit others; when things go wrong, look at yourself first.
   Level 5 Leadership: Humility and Will in Great Leaders
2. Take extreme ownership
   When the team fails, the leader looks first at what the leader did or failed to do.
   Extreme Ownership, Made Practical
3. Practice owning your contribution in group settings
   In team debrief or credit-distribution conversations, name your specific contribution before someone else summarizes it away.
   Impostor Phenomenon, Made Practical
4. Move from blame to contribution
   Ask how each side contributed to the situation instead of who is at fault.
   Difficult Conversations, Made Practical
5. Take extreme ownership of outcomes — even ones that aren’t your fault
   Claiming ownership of everything in your domain — even external failures — is the fastest path to fixing them.
   Discipline Equals Freedom: Jocko Willink's Framework
6. Personalization and self-blame
   Take excessive personal responsibility for negative events that were partly or wholly outside your control.
   Cognitive Distortions: The Thinking Errors Behind Anxiety and Depression
7. Create a culture of peer-to-peer accountability
   Teams that only hold each other accountable through the manager haven’t built real accountability at all.
   The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, Made Practical
8. Distinguish your self from your role
   Separate who you are from the authority position you occupy — your role takes the heat, not you.
   Adaptive Leadership, Made Practical
9. Correct blaming by adding accountability for self
   When blaming, add an honest account of your own contribution to the problem.
   The Satir Model
10. Train optimistic causal attribution deliberately
    Practice attributing good events to stable, internal causes — not to luck or one-off circumstances.
    Three Good Things: The Evidence-Based Gratitude Practice

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