Coaching practices for Curiosity About People

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• Everything has gone flat and routine
• I keep judging whether something’s for me by whether it felt fun in the moment, but plenty of things feel pleasant and go nowhere
• There’s this feeling sitting in me and I can feel it in my body, but I don’t really get what it’s about or what it wants from me, and I want to get curious about it instead of just analyzing myself.
• I walk into conversations preoccupied with how I’m coming across
• I catch myself just waiting for my turn to talk instead of really hearing the person in front of me

Practices that may help

1. Cultivate curiosity as a daily emotional practice
   Curiosity is a broadening emotion that expands attentional scope and drives exploratory behavior — it can be deliberately triggered.
   Broaden-and-Build, Made Practical
2. Track what makes you ask questions, not what makes you feel good
   Curiosity is a better signal for developing passion than pleasure.
   Passion vs Interest: How to Actually Find Work You Love
3. I — Investigate with gentle, curious attention
   Bring kind curiosity to the emotion: Where is it in the body? What does it most need?
   RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
4. Become genuinely interested in other people
   You make more friends in two months by being interested in others than in two years trying to make them interested in you.
   How to Win Friends and Influence People, Made Practical
5. Genuine curiosity about others
   Ask real questions and listen, instead of waiting to talk.
   The Good Life: Lessons from the Harvard Study
6. Recall how little you notice others
   Inventory how often you notice strangers’ flaws — then apply that rate to yourself.
   The Spotlight Effect: Why You Think Everyone Is Watching
7. Distinguish genuine interest from performed interest
   Separate goals you are genuinely curious about from ones you believe you should be curious about.
   Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical
8. Prime identity before the ask — "what kind of person are you?"
   Invite the person to describe who they are in terms that align with the behavior you’re requesting.
   Pre-Suasion, Made Practical
9. Use self-disclosure to invite similarity discovery
   Sharing something true about yourself gives the other person a target to match.
   The Similarity-Attraction Effect (Donn Byrne)
10. RAIN — Investigate with kindness
    Gently explore what the feeling is about and what it most needs — with curiosity, not interrogation.
    Radical Acceptance, Made Practical

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