Coaching practices for Epictetus Desire Aversion
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I’ve quietly decided I need this to go a certain way
- I want things I can’t make happen
- I chase the same kinds of things over and over
- I’ve stopped noticing the good things I already have
- My peace of mind is hostage to things I can’t control
Practices that may help
- Discipline desire and aversion
Want only what’s up to you, and be averse only to what’s up to you — then you can’t be thwarted.
The Enchiridion, as a Handbook - The Stoic Discipline of Desire
Pierre Hadot identified the "discipline of desire" as one of the three Stoic spiritual exercises: training yourself to desire only what is in your power (virtue, your own judgments and responses) and to be indifferent to what is not. The practice targets the root cause of most human suffering — craving things outside your control — rather than its symptoms. - Apply the dichotomy of control to your desires
Before each want, ask: is the object of this desire in my power, or outside it?
The Stoic Discipline of Desire - Classifying desires before pursuing them
Before pursuing a desire, classify it: is it natural and necessary, natural and unnecessary, or vain?
Epicurean Philosophy: Practical Happiness - Practice negative visualization to reset desire
Spend five minutes imagining the loss of something you currently take for granted — then let the wanting of it become gratitude for having it.
The Stoic Discipline of Desire - The discipline of desire
Confine your desires and aversions to what is genuinely up to you — your judgments and actions, not outcomes.
The Inner Citadel - Pursue preferred indifferents with full effort but without attachment
Strive for health, success, and good outcomes — but know they are preferred, not required.
The Dichotomy of Control: Epictetus’ Central Lesson - Practice amor fati — love what happens
Train yourself not just to accept what is given, but to want it — to find the ground for willing what occurs.
The Stoic Discipline of Desire - Practice voluntary discomfort to weaken the power of desire
Periodically choose a minor discomfort (cold, hunger, inconvenience) to confirm that you can tolerate more than you fear.
The Stoic Discipline of Desire - Epicurean Philosophy: Practical Happiness
Epicurus taught that happiness is ataraxia — tranquil freedom from anxiety — achieved not through luxury and excess but through simple pleasures, genuine friendship, philosophical reflection, and freedom from unnecessary fear. His system is a precise argument against hedonic treadmill behaviour: the desires that seem to promise happiness (wealth, fame, power) are the ones that most reliably prevent it.
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Pierre Hadot identified the "discipline of desire" as one of the three Stoic spiritual exercises: training yourself to desire only what is in your power (virtue, your own judgments and responses) and to be indifferent to what is not. The practice targets the root cause of most human suffering — craving things outside your control — rather than its symptoms.
- Desire Management Philosophy
Pierre Hadot identified the "discipline of desire" as one of the three Stoic spiritual exercises: training yourself to desire only what is in your power (virtue, your own judgments and responses) and to be indifferent to what is not. The practice targets the root cause of most human suffering — craving things outside your control — rather than its symptoms.
- Stoic Desire Health Wealth
Prefer health, success, and good relationships — but pursue them as means, not as conditions of your well-being.
Pursue preferred indifferents without requiring them
- Stoic Discipline Of Desire
Pierre Hadot identified the "discipline of desire" as one of the three Stoic spiritual exercises: training yourself to desire only what is in your power (virtue, your own judgments and responses) and to be indifferent to what is not. The practice targets the root cause of most human suffering — craving things outside your control — rather than its symptoms.
- The Stoic Discipline Of Desire As A Caregiver
Pierre Hadot identified the "discipline of desire" as one of the three Stoic spiritual exercises: training yourself to desire only what is in your power (virtue, your own judgments and responses) and to be indifferent to what is not. The practice targets the root cause of most human suffering — craving things outside your control — rather than its symptoms.
- The Stoic Discipline Of Desire At Work
Pierre Hadot identified the "discipline of desire" as one of the three Stoic spiritual exercises: training yourself to desire only what is in your power (virtue, your own judgments and responses) and to be indifferent to what is not. The practice targets the root cause of most human suffering — craving things outside your control — rather than its symptoms.
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