Coaching practices for Does the Feeling Fit

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I can feel this murky thing inside me clearly enough, but every word I reach for to describe it feels like a guess from my head that doesn’t quite land
• This decision just "feels right" and I want to go with it, but I can’t shake the worry that the good feeling is really about my mood today, not about whether it’s actually a smart call.
• A feeling hits hard and I can’t tell if it’s warning me about something real or just a false alarm firing too loud
• When I think about this whole situation there’s something my body clearly registers
• I can analyze my feelings all day long, but it stays in my head and never actually moves through me

Practices that may help

1. Find a handle word or image
   Let a word, phrase, or image arise from the felt sense — not the other way around.
   Focusing and the Felt Sense, Made Practical
2. Check whether your judgment is tracking affect, not the target attribute
   When a decision "just feels right," ask whether the feeling is about the actual question or about your current emotional state.
   Attribute Substitution: When Your Brain Answers a Different Question
3. Check the facts first
   Decide whether the emotion actually fits the situation before doing anything about it.
   Opposite Action: Acting Against the Emotion’s Urge
4. Find the felt sense
   Locate the unclear, whole-body sense of a situation before you name it.
   Focusing and the Felt Sense, Made Practical
5. Locate the emotion in the body as well as naming it
   After naming an emotion on the Feeling Wheel, find where it lives in the body.
   The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary
6. The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary
   The Feeling Wheel, developed by counselor Gloria Willcox in 1982, is a visual tool that organizes emotions in concentric rings from six core emotions (glad, mad, sad, scared, disgusted, powerful) outward to increasingly specific nuanced feelings. It helps people name their emotional experience more precisely — a capacity research calls emotional granularity — which is associated with better emotional regulation and reduced distress.
7. Notice and name mixed or contradictory emotions simultaneously
   When something significant happens, look for two or more emotions that coexist — even contradictory ones.
   The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary
8. Pair the word with a body location
   Name the feeling and where you sense it: "tight in the chest", "heavy in the gut".
   Affect Labeling: Name It to Tame It
9. RAIN — Investigate with kindness
   Gently explore what the feeling is about and what it most needs — with curiosity, not interrogation.
   Radical Acceptance, Made Practical
10. Resonate and check
    Shuttle between the word and the body to confirm the felt sense is accurately captured.
    Focusing and the Felt Sense, Made Practical

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