Coaching practices for Identifying Feelings

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• I can analyze my feelings all day long, but it stays in my head and never actually moves through me
• When something’s wrong all I can manage is a vague "I feel off" or "I feel bad," and that fog just sits on me and grows
• When a feeling takes over I’m just lost inside it, like it’s the whole room
• When they ask what’s wrong, all that comes out is “you ignored me” or “you don’t care”
• I can tell I’m off — short with people, tight, reactive — but if you asked me what I’m actually feeling I couldn’t say, and I want to slow down enough to even know what’s going on in me.

Practices that may help

1. Locate the emotion in the body as well as naming it
   After naming an emotion on the Feeling Wheel, find where it lives in the body.
   The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary
2. Label what you sense (affect labeling)
   Put precise words to internal sensations and feelings to take the heat out of them.
   Interoception, Explained
3. Name what the emotion is doing in your body
   Track the physical signs of the emotion as they move through — this alone reduces their intensity.
   The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
4. Identifying and expressing feelings
   Name the actual emotion underneath, distinct from thoughts disguised as feelings.
   Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Made Practical
5. R — Recognize what is happening
   Pause and name what is actually present: "Fear is here," "Anger is here," "Shame is here."
   RAIN Meditation: Tara Brach’s Four-Step Practice
6. Name the emotion in plain words
   Say what you feel as a simple statement: "I am feeling anxious right now."
   Affect Labeling: Name It to Tame It
7. RAIN — Investigate with kindness
   Gently explore what the feeling is about and what it most needs — with curiosity, not interrogation.
   Radical Acceptance, Made Practical
8. Name the emotion and what triggered it
   Start by identifying the emotion specifically and the event that preceded it — without mixing interpretation in.
   Check the Facts, Made Practical
9. Find the felt sense
   Locate the unclear, whole-body sense of a situation before you name it.
   Focusing and the Felt Sense, Made Practical
10. The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary
    The Feeling Wheel, developed by counselor Gloria Willcox in 1982, is a visual tool that organizes emotions in concentric rings from six core emotions (glad, mad, sad, scared, disgusted, powerful) outward to increasingly specific nuanced feelings. It helps people name their emotional experience more precisely — a capacity research calls emotional granularity — which is associated with better emotional regulation and reduced distress.

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