Coaching practices for Emotion Coaching John Gottman in a New Job

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• I only ever try this stuff when my kid is already in full meltdown, and that’s exactly when it comes out stiff and scripted and falls apart
• The second my kid starts melting down I feel my own chest tighten and my patience snap, and I react from that heat
• I give my team a sharp, accurate read on what’s going wrong and exactly how to fix it, and they nod and walk away
• When I replay my coaching conversations I’m talking way more than the other person
• We both understand our pattern perfectly by now

Practices that may help

1. Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
   Emotion coaching is John Gottman’s term for the parenting style in which adults treat a child’s negative emotions as opportunities to connect and teach rather than problems to suppress. Longitudinal research from Gottman’s lab found that children of emotion-coaching parents showed better emotional regulation, fewer behavioral problems, and stronger academic performance compared to children whose emotions were dismissed or punished.
2. The Gottman Method, Made Practical
   Drawing on decades of observing couples in a research "love lab," John Gottman identified patterns that distinguish stable relationships from failing ones: avoiding the "four horsemen" of criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling; making repair attempts; turning toward bids for connection; and keeping a high ratio of positive to negative interactions. The observational research base is substantial, though much of it is correlational.
3. Practice emotion coaching during low-stakes moments
   Build the skill in small moments so it’s available in the big ones.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
4. Become aware of your own emotional reactions first
   A parent who is flooded by their child’s distress cannot coach it — self-awareness is the prerequisite.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
5. Raise awareness and build responsibility simultaneously
   Help the person see their situation more clearly while also connecting them to their ownership of it.
   The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
6. Maintain a high question-to-statement ratio throughout GROW
   Ask questions far more often than you offer statements — the coachee’s thinking is the product.
   The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
7. The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
   The GROW model (Goal, Reality, Options, Will/Way Forward), popularized by John Whitmore’s Coaching for Performance, is the most widely used coaching conversation framework. It works by sequencing a conversation from goal clarity through honest reality assessment to option generation and commitment — resisting the coach’s instinct to jump straight to advice. Evidence is clinical rather than from controlled trials, though the underlying principles map onto well-supported psychological mechanisms.
8. Create corrective emotional experiences together
   The goal is not to understand the pattern intellectually -- it is to have a new emotional experience of safety within it.
   Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
9. Explore Reality — establish an honest assessment of the current situation
   Help the person see their current situation clearly and specifically, without judgment or premature solutions.
   The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
10. Turn toward bids for connection
    Respond to your partner’s small bids for attention rather than turning away or against them.
    The Gottman Method, Made Practical

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