Coaching practices for Emotion Coaching John Gottman During a Big Change

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• I only ever try this stuff when my kid is already in full meltdown, and that’s exactly when it comes out stiff and scripted and falls apart
• The second my kid starts melting down I feel my own chest tighten and my patience snap, and I react from that heat
• My partner is going through a huge change right now
• The people I coach leave fired up with a plan, but the first ordinary snag throws them and the whole thing quietly dies
• We both understand our pattern perfectly by now

Practices that may help

1. Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
   Emotion coaching is John Gottman’s term for the parenting style in which adults treat a child’s negative emotions as opportunities to connect and teach rather than problems to suppress. Longitudinal research from Gottman’s lab found that children of emotion-coaching parents showed better emotional regulation, fewer behavioral problems, and stronger academic performance compared to children whose emotions were dismissed or punished.
2. Practice emotion coaching during low-stakes moments
   Build the skill in small moments so it’s available in the big ones.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
3. Become aware of your own emotional reactions first
   A parent who is flooded by their child’s distress cannot coach it — self-awareness is the prerequisite.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
4. Update your love map after major life changes
   When life shifts, assume your map is outdated and ask new questions.
   Love Maps: Knowing Your Partner's Inner World
5. Obstacle anticipation before close
   Before ending, ask "what could get in the way?" and pre-plan the response.
   The GROW Coaching Model, Made Practical
6. Create corrective emotional experiences together
   The goal is not to understand the pattern intellectually -- it is to have a new emotional experience of safety within it.
   Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
7. The Gottman Method, Made Practical
   Drawing on decades of observing couples in a research "love lab," John Gottman identified patterns that distinguish stable relationships from failing ones: avoiding the "four horsemen" of criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling; making repair attempts; turning toward bids for connection; and keeping a high ratio of positive to negative interactions. The observational research base is substantial, though much of it is correlational.
8. Use a life transition to break old environment-behavior links
   Major context changes (a move, a new job) create a rare window where old habits are disrupted and new ones are easier to form.
   Environment Design for Behavior Change
9. Explore Reality — establish an honest assessment of the current situation
   Help the person see their current situation clearly and specifically, without judgment or premature solutions.
   The GROW Model: Coaching Conversations That Actually Move People
10. Treat the emotional moment as a teaching opportunity
    When your child is upset, slow down instead of speeding toward resolution.
    Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)

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