Coaching practices for Emotion Coaching John Gottman When Overwhelmed

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• The second my kid starts melting down I feel my own chest tighten and my patience snap, and I react from that heat
• I only ever try this stuff when my kid is already in full meltdown, and that’s exactly when it comes out stiff and scripted and falls apart
• I’m so flooded right now I can’t think
• When my child gets upset my whole reflex is to make it stop as fast as possible
• My body is in full alarm right now

Practices that may help

1. Become aware of your own emotional reactions first
   A parent who is flooded by their child’s distress cannot coach it — self-awareness is the prerequisite.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
2. Practice emotion coaching during low-stakes moments
   Build the skill in small moments so it’s available in the big ones.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
3. Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
   Emotion coaching is John Gottman’s term for the parenting style in which adults treat a child’s negative emotions as opportunities to connect and teach rather than problems to suppress. Longitudinal research from Gottman’s lab found that children of emotion-coaching parents showed better emotional regulation, fewer behavioral problems, and stronger academic performance compared to children whose emotions were dismissed or punished.
4. TIPP: Rapid Physiological De-escalation for Intense Distress
   Use Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing, and Paired muscle relaxation to bring crisis-level emotion down quickly.
   The STOP Skill: A DBT Technique for Crisis Moments
5. Treat the emotional moment as a teaching opportunity
   When your child is upset, slow down instead of speeding toward resolution.
   Emotion Coaching (John Gottman)
6. TIPP — change your body chemistry fast
   Use Temperature, Intense exercise, Paced breathing, and Progressive muscle relaxation to drop overwhelm from the body up.
   Distress Tolerance Skills, Made Practical
7. Shift from one-person to two-person psychology
   Stop managing your distress alone and start managing it together.
   Secure-Functioning Relationships
8. Manage emotional arousal before and during problem solving
   Use a brief calming strategy when emotions are too high to solve problems effectively.
   Problem-Solving Therapy, Made Practical
9. Regulate yourself first
   You can only lend calm you actually have — settle your own state before helping someone else.
   Co-Regulation: Borrowing Calm From Another Nervous System
10. Self-soothing during conflict instead of demanding partner regulate you
    Calm your own nervous system in the moment, rather than requiring your partner to change so you can feel better.
    Differentiation of Self: David Schnarch’s Framework for Passionate Marriage

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