Coaching practices for Emotion Patterns

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• My moods seem to come out of nowhere and blindside me, and only afterward do I half-notice it tends to happen around the same situations
• My blowups feel like they come out of nowhere, but I’m starting to notice it’s always the same setups
• I hear myself snapping at them over the dishes again, but that’s not what it’s about at all
• My mood keeps making my decisions for me
• My moods seem to come out of nowhere

Practices that may help

1. Track your emotions over time
   Log feelings briefly across days to see the patterns and triggers you would otherwise miss.
   Emotional Granularity: Precision as a Regulation Skill
2. Map your personal emotion triggers
   Know which situations, times of day, and states reliably trigger your most intense emotions — so you can intervene upstream.
   The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
3. Access and name the underlying attachment emotion
   Beneath the surface argument is a primary emotion -- usually fear, longing, or grief -- that drives the cycle.
   Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair
4. Walk your why — act from values, not from mood
   Choose your response based on what matters to you, not on what the emotion is demanding.
   Emotional Agility, Made Practical
5. Map your emotional landscape
   Identify which situations reliably produce which emotions for you — before you need to regulate them.
   Situation Selection, Made Practical
6. Locate the emotion in the body as well as naming it
   After naming an emotion on the Feeling Wheel, find where it lives in the body.
   The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary
7. Name what the emotion is doing in your body
   Track the physical signs of the emotion as they move through — this alone reduces their intensity.
   The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
8. Do the opposite action all the way
   Commit to the opposite fully — posture, voice, attention — not half-heartedly.
   Opposite Action: Acting Against the Emotion’s Urge
9. Observe the emotion without feeding it
   When a strong emotion hits, watch it without adding the story that keeps it going.
   The 90-Second Rule, Made Practical
10. Create corrective emotional experiences together
    The goal is not to understand the pattern intellectually -- it is to have a new emotional experience of safety within it.
    Emotionally Focused Therapy: Sue Johnson's Framework for Lasting Bond Repair

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