Coaching practices for Emotional Reasoning

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• On paper this is the obviously rational call, but there’s a gut unease about it nobody will say out loud because we can’t justify it logically
• When things get emotionally charged I retreat into being calm and logical, marshaling airtight arguments from behind a wall
• My mood keeps making my decisions for me
• He didn’t text back and I instantly decided it means he’s pulling away from me
• Someone read my message and didn’t reply, and now I’m spun up and certain they’re angry at me

Practices that may help

1. Red hat: name the emotions without justifying them
   Give feelings a legitimate place in the discussion — the red hat makes emotional data explicit so it stops running covertly.
   Six Thinking Hats, Made Practical
2. Correct computing by adding the emotional layer
   When you’ve gone cold and logical, add the feeling that’s driving the analysis.
   The Satir Model
3. Walk your why — act from values, not from mood
   Choose your response based on what matters to you, not on what the emotion is demanding.
   Emotional Agility, Made Practical
4. Identify the interpretation driving the emotion
   Find the specific thought or belief that is generating the emotional response — not the event, but the meaning you assigned.
   Check the Facts, Made Practical
5. Check the facts
   Before acting on an emotion, ask whether your interpretation of the situation actually fits the evidence.
   DBT Emotion Regulation Skills, Made Practical
6. Emotional reasoning
   Treat a feeling as direct evidence about external reality: "I feel like a fraud, so I must be one."
   Cognitive Distortions: The Thinking Errors Behind Anxiety and Depression
7. Check whether your judgment is tracking affect, not the target attribute
   When a decision "just feels right," ask whether the feeling is about the actual question or about your current emotional state.
   Attribute Substitution: When Your Brain Answers a Different Question
8. Ask whether the emotion fits the facts
   After checking, decide whether your emotion is warranted by the actual facts — not the interpretation.
   Check the Facts, Made Practical
9. Motivated Reasoning
   Motivated reasoning, studied extensively by Ziva Kunda and others, is the tendency to reason toward a conclusion you want to reach rather than wherever the evidence leads. It is not conscious deception — the brain generates genuinely felt arguments for the preferred conclusion. Detection and structured debiasing techniques reduce but do not eliminate it; awareness alone is insufficient.
10. Name your emotional state before making an important decision
    Identify and name the emotion you are in before committing to a significant choice.
    The Feeling Wheel: Building Emotional Vocabulary

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