Coaching practices for Essentialism for My Teenager
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- I keep avoiding this even though I’m capable of it and I do care, and I can’t explain why
- I want my child to carry a solid sense of who they are even when I’m not there to remind them
- I keep saying "that’s just who I am"
- The role that told me who I was just ended
- I fuse so completely with whatever I’m thinking or feeling
Practices that may help
- Socialise your values and expectations to reduce hidden motivation barriers
Others’s expectations and transmitted values shape whether you believe you belong in a domain — making implicit messages explicit clears hidden motivation blocks.
Expectancy-Value Theory: Why You Try (or Don’t) - Build the child’s inner wealth narrative over time
Consistently reflect back who the child is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
The Nurtured Heart Approach (Howard Glasser) - Take seriously that you have no fixed nature
Stop treating your personality, role, or past as a given — you are always in the process of defining yourself.
Existentialism and Radical Choice - Essentialism: The Art of Eliminating the Non-Essential
Greg McKeown argues that the disciplined elimination of the non-essential — not time management — is the core skill of high leverage. Saying no gracefully, applying an extreme-criteria filter, and reversing sunk-cost thinking are the active practices. The framework is a practitioner synthesis; the individual techniques draw on robust findings in behavioral economics and decision research. - Anchor self-definition in values, not roles
Define yourself by what you stand for rather than by the roles you play — roles change; values endure.
Self-Concept Clarity, Made Practical - Practice loosening identification with the ego-self
Train the capacity to observe your thoughts, feelings, and roles without completely being them.
The Perennial Philosophy, Made Practical - Practice third-order perspective-taking
Step outside your relationships and social roles to see them as one perspective rather than as your identity.
Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical - Develop second-tier, systems-level thinking
Practice holding multiple value systems as simultaneously valid rather than competing for dominance.
Spiral Dynamics, Made Practical - Choose authentically — from your own values, not from expectation
Make choices that reflect your actual values rather than the role others have assigned you.
Existentialism and Radical Choice - Assess which life conditions are activating which levels
Map how your current environment is pulling different value systems forward or backward.
Spiral Dynamics, Made Practical
Related concerns
- Essentialism Criteria
Greg McKeown argues that the disciplined elimination of the non-essential — not time management — is the core skill of high leverage. Saying no gracefully, applying an extreme-criteria filter, and reversing sunk-cost thinking are the active practices. The framework is a practitioner synthesis; the individual techniques draw on robust findings in behavioral economics and decision research.
- Essentialism
Greg McKeown argues that the disciplined elimination of the non-essential — not time management — is the core skill of high leverage. Saying no gracefully, applying an extreme-criteria filter, and reversing sunk-cost thinking are the active practices. The framework is a practitioner synthesis; the individual techniques draw on robust findings in behavioral economics and decision research.
- Essentialism At Work
Others’s expectations and transmitted values shape whether you believe you belong in a domain — making implicit messages explicit clears hidden motivation blocks.
Socialise your values and expectations to reduce hidden motivation barriers
- Essentialism Quit
Greg McKeown argues that the disciplined elimination of the non-essential — not time management — is the core skill of high leverage. Saying no gracefully, applying an extreme-criteria filter, and reversing sunk-cost thinking are the active practices. The framework is a practitioner synthesis; the individual techniques draw on robust findings in behavioral economics and decision research.
- Greg Mckeown Essentialism
Greg McKeown’s Essentialism is the disciplined pursuit of less but better: instead of trying to do it all, you ruthlessly distinguish the vital few from the trivial many and then design your life around the few. The core moves — protecting time to discern, embracing trade-offs, and building in slack — are well grounded, even though the philosophy itself is a practitioner synthesis.
- Blue Stage Spiral Dynamics Order Rules Authority
Recognize when you’re bypassing a developmental level that still has unresolved challenges.
Avoid level-jumping: build through each stage rather than skipping
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