Coaching practices for Existence Precedes Essence

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

  • I keep saying "that’s just who I am"
  • I’m always living for the next thing
  • I walk into conversations already deciding "they’re just like that," and they reliably prove me right
  • I keep telling myself "this is just how I am, I always end up here," like the pattern is some fixed thing built into me
  • I keep telling myself life really starts once I get through this next thing, and meanwhile I’m either replaying something I can’t change or bracing for something that hasn’t happened

Practices that may help

  1. Take seriously that you have no fixed nature
    Stop treating your personality, role, or past as a given — you are always in the process of defining yourself.
    Existentialism and Radical Choice
  2. Existentialism and Radical Choice
    Jean-Paul Sartre’s existentialism holds that human beings have no fixed nature — "existence precedes essence" — and are therefore radically free to define themselves through their choices. The practical implication is that you cannot hide behind role, instinct, or circumstance: you are always already choosing, including when you tell yourself you have no choice. This is philosophical rather than clinical; its overlap with ACT and CBT is real but indirect.
  3. Be fully present without hoping for something else
    Camus advocates full presence in the actual moment — not as a way to escape it but as its own form of aliveness.
    Absurdism and the Practice of Meaning Despite
  4. Interdependence as a daily relational practice
    See every interaction as a mutual arising — you are not encountering a fixed person but a process that is partly shaped by your presence.
    Dependent Origination: How Suffering Arises and Ceases
  5. Nagarjuna's insight: no link exists independently
    Each link in the chain is empty of inherent existence — which means the chain has no necessity, only conditionality.
    Dependent Origination: How Suffering Arises and Ceases
  6. Essentialism, Made Practical
    Greg McKeown’s Essentialism is the disciplined pursuit of less but better: instead of trying to do it all, you ruthlessly distinguish the vital few from the trivial many and then design your life around the few. The core moves — protecting time to discern, embracing trade-offs, and building in slack — are well grounded, even though the philosophy itself is a practitioner synthesis.
  7. Return to the present as the only moment of action
    Epictetus, Seneca, and Marcus all return to the same point: you can only act now — stop deferring life.
    Philosophy as a Way of Life
  8. Reason up from the parts, not by analogy
    Build the solution from the fundamentals you kept, rather than copying an existing template.
    First-Principles Thinking, Made Usable
  9. Open with a concrete story, not with your framework
    Lead with a specific, sensory narrative before introducing any abstraction.
    The Curse of Knowledge: Why Experts Struggle to Teach
  10. Define yourself by actions, not intentions
    You are not your intentions or your self-image — you are the accumulation of what you actually do.
    Existentialism and Radical Choice

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