Coaching practices for Expectancy Value Theory Why You Try or Don T as a Parent

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  • I just don’t believe I can do this, and no amount of "you’ve got this" or hyping myself up moves that conviction an inch
  • I keep avoiding this even though I’m capable of it and I do care, and I can’t explain why
  • I’m completely unmotivated and I honestly can’t tell whether it’s that deep down I don’t believe I can pull this off, or that I just don’t care about it
  • I keep putting this off because deep down I don’t think I can actually pull it off
  • I genuinely want this and I believe I can do it, yet I still avoid it

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  1. Expectancy-Value Theory: Why You Try (or Don’t)
    Jacquelynne Eccles’s expectancy-value theory proposes that motivation to pursue a task is jointly determined by two factors: expectancy (your belief that you can succeed) and value (how much you care about success). Both are required — high value with low expectancy produces anxiety and avoidance; high expectancy with low value produces competent indifference. The theory has a substantial empirical base primarily in academic achievement contexts, with reasonable generalisation to broader life domains.
  2. Build expectancy through mastery experiences, not just affirmations
    Expectancy — the belief that you can succeed — grows from actual small wins, not self-talk.
    Expectancy-Value Theory: Why You Try (or Don’t)
  3. Socialise your values and expectations to reduce hidden motivation barriers
    Others’s expectations and transmitted values shape whether you believe you belong in a domain — making implicit messages explicit clears hidden motivation blocks.
    Expectancy-Value Theory: Why You Try (or Don’t)
  4. Diagnose whether you are stuck on expectancy or value
    Before trying to motivate yourself, identify which of the two factors is actually low.
    Expectancy-Value Theory: Why You Try (or Don’t)
  5. Raise your expectancy of success before starting
    Boost confidence that effort will actually lead to a good outcome — low expectancy is a core driver of delay.
    The Procrastination Equation, Made Practical
  6. Reduce the perceived cost of the task, not just increase its value
    High cost — effort, anxiety, or opportunity cost — can cancel even genuinely valued tasks; reducing cost is a motivation lever that is often overlooked.
    Expectancy-Value Theory: Why You Try (or Don’t)
  7. Encourage the effort and the process, not the outcome
    Encouragement builds inner confidence; outcome-praise creates dependency on adult evaluation.
    Natural and Logical Consequences (Rudolf Dreikurs)
  8. Explain the reason behind rules
    Children who understand why a rule exists are more likely to internalize it — and more likely to generalize it to new situations.
    Authoritative Parenting (Diana Baumrind)
  9. Plan behavior management strategies in advance
    Decide how you will respond to predictable problems before they happen.
    Triple P Parenting (Matthew Sanders)
  10. Understand what the marshmallow test really shows
    The famous test is real — but the "it predicts your whole life" story did not hold up.
    Delayed Gratification, Made Practical

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