Coaching practices for Expectations and Performance Anxiety

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• The moment I’m up there performing, my head fills with "how do I look, am I blowing this, what are they thinking"
• Telling myself it’ll probably go badly takes the edge off my nerves
• Right before I go on, my heart is pounding and my hands are shaking and I read all of it as a sign I’m about to fall apart
• I’m so wound up about nailing this presentation that the pressure to be good is exactly what makes me freeze
• Right before the big moment I’m wired and shaking and I keep telling myself to calm down and relax, which never works and just makes me more frantic that I can’t

Practices that may help

1. Shift to task-focused attention under performance anxiety
   Redirect attention from self-monitoring and outcome worry to the specific process cues of the task at hand.
   Attentional Deployment, Made Practical
2. Hold low expectations while keeping high standards
   Defensive pessimism sets low expectations to manage anxiety, not low standards to reduce effort.
   Defensive Pessimism, Made Practical
3. Reappraise physiological arousal as activation, not anxiety
   Tell yourself "I’m excited" rather than "I’m nervous" — the physiology is identical; the label changes performance.
   The Clutch State: Performing Under Pressure
4. Use paradoxical intention for performance anxiety
   Before a performance, commit to performing as badly as possible — notice what happens to the anxiety.
   Logotherapy: Paradoxical Intention
5. Reappraise anxiety as excitement before high-stakes performance
   Tell yourself "I’m excited" rather than "I’m nervous" — the physiology is the same, the performance effect is not.
   Choking Under Pressure, Made Practical
6. Recalibrate arousal as readiness, not threat
   Reinterpret pre-performance anxiety as energy and readiness rather than evidence of inadequacy.
   Mastery Experiences
7. Protect the strategy from well-meaning optimism
   Recognize that others’ "positive thinking" attempts before your performance will disrupt your preparation — and manage that proactively.
   Defensive Pessimism, Made Practical
8. Write about your worries before a high-stakes performance
   Offload performance anxiety by writing it out in full immediately before the event.
   Choking Under Pressure, Made Practical
9. Reframe high-stakes moments as opportunities to demonstrate capability
   Treat pressure as validation that the performance matters — which is exactly why you prepared for it.
   The Clutch State: Performing Under Pressure
10. Apply EFT to specific performance anxiety triggers
    EFT has the strongest self-guided evidence for test anxiety, public speaking, and sports performance stress.
    EFT Tapping: What It Is, How to Do It, and What the Evidence Shows

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