Coaching practices for Face Your Feelings

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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?

• The moment a hard feeling shows up I’m already busy escaping it
• The second a hard feeling shows up I clamp down on it and shove it away, but it just keeps coming back louder
• I feel the jealousy or the hurt and then immediately pile on a second layer of "I shouldn’t feel this, a mature person wouldn’t"
• I’m stuck at one of two extremes with hard feelings
• The instant something painful surfaces

Practices that may help

1. Show up — turn toward difficult emotions
   Face difficult feelings with curiosity rather than suppressing, avoiding, or being swept into them.
   Emotional Agility, Made Practical
2. RAIN — Allow the experience to be here
   Let the feeling exist as it is for a moment, without pushing it away or feeding it.
   Radical Acceptance, Made Practical
3. Give yourself permission to feel
   Drop the judgment about whether you should or shouldn’t feel a certain way — the emotion is already there.
   Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical
4. Mindful awareness of suffering
   Hold painful feelings in balanced awareness — neither suppressing them nor being swept away by them.
   Self-Compassion, Made Practical
5. Receive what comes with friendliness
   Welcome whatever emerges from the felt sense without judgment or urgency to fix it.
   Focusing and the Felt Sense, Made Practical
6. Expand into difficult feelings rather than contracting away
   When discomfort arrives, consciously make room for it rather than tightening against it.
   Psychological Flexibility, Made Practical
7. Acceptance (willingness)
   Make room for unwanted feelings instead of struggling against them, so they stop running the show.
   Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Made Practical
8. Check the facts first
   Decide whether the emotion actually fits the situation before doing anything about it.
   Opposite Action: Acting Against the Emotion’s Urge
9. The practice of self-acceptance
   Be for yourself — refuse to be your own adversary, even about the parts you want to change.
   The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
10. Stop surface acting
    Recognize when you’re masking emotions at work or in relationships, and find low-cost outlets for what you actually feel.
    Radical Honesty About Emotions, Made Practical

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