Coaching practices for Find What You Love Doing
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Does this sound like the set of challenges you might be facing?
- I can never answer "what do you love?" when someone asks me straight out
- I feel like I should already know my one thing and lock in, but honestly I’ve barely tried anything
- There are a handful of things I do where I look up and hours have vanished, and I want to know what they have in common so I can fill more of my actual week with them instead of the obligations that drain me.
- I’m pulled in a dozen directions and none of them is clearly the thing
- I keep waiting to feel that spark before I really commit to anything, and it never shows up at the start
Practices that may help
- Follow flow as a clue
Track the activities where time disappears — they point toward love and skill at once.
Ikigai, Honestly Explained - Passion vs Interest: How to Actually Find Work You Love
Paul O’Keefe and colleagues found that people who believe interests are fixed ("find your passion") tend to abandon pursuits when they get hard, while those who see interests as developed through effort stay curious and persistent. The evidence suggests "follow your passion" is not just unhelpful advice — it may actively discourage the effort that transforms shallow interest into deep, sustaining work. - Sample widely before committing to a niche
Premature specialization forecloses interests you haven’t discovered yet.
Passion vs Interest: How to Actually Find Work You Love - Audit your day for autotelic activities
Identify which activities you lose yourself in and engineer more of them into your schedule.
Flow and Meaning: Csikszentmihalyi’s Framework - Map your three circles honestly
Separately answer each circle — passion, best-at, economic engine — before looking for the intersection.
The Hedgehog Concept - Invest effort before expecting the passion to arrive
Passion follows competence — start before you feel ready, because the feeling comes after.
Passion vs Interest: How to Actually Find Work You Love - Prioritize skill gains that reveal more of the domain
Each layer of skill opens new parts of a domain you couldn’t see before — this is how interest deepens.
Passion vs Interest: How to Actually Find Work You Love - Track what makes you ask questions, not what makes you feel good
Curiosity is a better signal for developing passion than pleasure.
Passion vs Interest: How to Actually Find Work You Love - Follow genuine interest, not strategic interest
Pursue the thing that genuinely excites you — even if you cannot explain why or see how it fits.
The Creative Act: Rick Rubin’s Approach to Making - Test passion with the energy-after test
Passion is revealed by what energizes you after doing it — not by what you aspire to love.
The Hedgehog Concept
Related concerns
- How To Find Interests
Premature specialization forecloses interests you haven’t discovered yet.
Sample widely before committing to a niche
- Passion Vs Interest How To Actually Find Work You Love During Conflict
Paul O’Keefe and colleagues found that people who believe interests are fixed ("find your passion") tend to abandon pursuits when they get hard, while those who see interests as developed through effort stay curious and persistent. The evidence suggests "follow your passion" is not just unhelpful advice — it may actively discourage the effort that transforms shallow interest into deep, sustaining work.
- Develop Your Passion
Passion follows competence — start before you feel ready, because the feeling comes after.
Invest effort before expecting the passion to arrive
- Find Your Passion Myth
Paul O’Keefe and colleagues found that people who believe interests are fixed ("find your passion") tend to abandon pursuits when they get hard, while those who see interests as developed through effort stay curious and persistent. The evidence suggests "follow your passion" is not just unhelpful advice — it may actively discourage the effort that transforms shallow interest into deep, sustaining work.
- Follow Your Interest
Paul O’Keefe and colleagues found that people who believe interests are fixed ("find your passion") tend to abandon pursuits when they get hard, while those who see interests as developed through effort stay curious and persistent. The evidence suggests "follow your passion" is not just unhelpful advice — it may actively discourage the effort that transforms shallow interest into deep, sustaining work.
- Follow Your Passion Research
Paul O’Keefe and colleagues found that people who believe interests are fixed ("find your passion") tend to abandon pursuits when they get hard, while those who see interests as developed through effort stay curious and persistent. The evidence suggests "follow your passion" is not just unhelpful advice — it may actively discourage the effort that transforms shallow interest into deep, sustaining work.
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