Coaching practices for Flow Engineering the State of Total Absorption During Conflict
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- Once my heart's pounding I can't take in a word they say
- There’s real friction on my team
- I keep trying to find deep focus in the ten-minute gaps between meetings and pings, and it never builds
- When I need to drop into focus, the task is almost always either so routine my mind wanders off or so daunting it spikes my anxiety and I stall
- We’re both too hot right now and I can feel that if we keep going one of us will say something we can’t take back
Practices that may help
- Flow: Engineering the State of Total Absorption
Flow, described by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, is the state of complete absorption in an activity where action and awareness merge and time distorts. It is not random luck — it tends to appear under specific conditions: a balance between challenge and skill, clear goals, and immediate feedback. You cannot force flow, but you can deliberately set up the conditions that make it likely. - Soothe physiological flooding before attempting repair
Repair requires a nervous system that can receive it -- self-soothe before re-engaging.
Repair Attempts: Gottman's Key to Surviving Conflict in Relationships - Storming: name the conflict without taking sides
Surface the tension that’s already there rather than managing it away.
Tuckman’s Stages of Team Development - Protect a block of uninterrupted attention
Flow needs a runway — eliminate interruptions before you start.
Flow: Engineering the State of Total Absorption - Tactical Empathy
Tactical empathy is deliberately understanding and then voicing the other person’s perspective and emotions — out loud — so they feel genuinely heard, which lowers their defenses and opens real dialogue. It’s a practitioner skill grounded in well-supported psychology of perspective-taking and naming emotions, not a manipulation trick. - Match challenge to skill
Aim for the band where the task slightly exceeds your current ability.
Flow: Engineering the State of Total Absorption - Use Avoiding strategically, not reflexively
Avoiding has a real place — but only when the issue is trivial, the timing is wrong, or cooling down is necessary.
The Thomas–Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI) - Build a shared repair vocabulary
Agree on repair phrases in advance so both partners recognize them when they land mid-conflict.
Repair Attempts: Gottman's Key to Surviving Conflict in Relationships - Eliminate interruptions before the session
Flow collapses the moment attention is redirected — build a distraction-proof container before you start.
Flow and Meaning: Csikszentmihalyi’s Framework - Set clear, proximal goals
Know exactly what you’re trying to do in the next stretch of work.
Flow: Engineering the State of Total Absorption
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