Coaching practices for Getting to Yes Method
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- Every time I push for a "yes" the other person tenses up like I’m trying to trap them, and the agreements I do get crumble the moment it’s time to actually commit
- This has turned into a pure contest of who’s more stubborn, and whoever caves first "loses"
- I think they’d privately accept what I’m offering, but the way I’ve framed it they’d basically have to admit defeat to say yes
- Every time I push on the actual issue it lands as a personal attack and we both get defensive
- We’re treating this like there’s one pie to fight over and someone has to lose
Practices that may help
- Getting to Yes: Principled Negotiation
Getting to Yes (Fisher & Ury, of the Harvard Negotiation Project) argues for negotiating on the merits instead of haggling over positions: separate people from the problem, focus on underlying interests, invent options for mutual gain, and judge outcomes by objective criteria — with your BATNA as the source of real leverage. It’s an influential framework grounded in decision theory and negotiation experience rather than a lab-tested protocol. - Get to “No”, not “Yes”
Ask questions that invite a safe “No” so the other side feels in control.
Never Split the Difference, In Practice - Insist on objective criteria
Anchor the deal to independent standards — market rates, precedent, expert opinion — not willpower.
Getting to Yes: Principled Negotiation - Frame proposals as "yesable propositions"
Make your proposals easy for the counterpart to say yes to — not easy on your terms, but easy to accept as legitimate.
Principled Negotiation, Made Practical - Principled Negotiation, Made Practical
Principled negotiation, developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in Getting to Yes, replaces positional bargaining with a method built on four elements: separate the people from the problem, focus on interests rather than positions, generate options for mutual gain, and insist on objective criteria. It aims for agreements that are better for both parties than their alternatives — without requiring either to capitulate or play hardball. - Separate the people from the problem
Be hard on the problem, soft on the people — attack the issue, not each other.
Getting to Yes: Principled Negotiation - Invent options for mutual gain
Brainstorm multiple possible deals before deciding, expanding the pie before splitting it.
Getting to Yes: Principled Negotiation - Elicit a small consistency cue before the main ask
Get a small, genuine agreement or self-description before the main request — people act consistently with what they’ve said.
Pre-Suasion, Made Practical - Negotiate: know your minimum and be willing to give and take
Decide in advance what you are willing to accept short of your full ask, and be ready to offer something in exchange.
DEAR MAN: DBT’s Skill for Asking for What You Want Effectively - Disagree and commit on two-way doors
Voice your disagreement fully, then commit to the group decision and give it a genuine try.
The Two-Way Door
Related concerns
- Getting To Yes Fisher Ury
Getting to Yes (Fisher & Ury, of the Harvard Negotiation Project) argues for negotiating on the merits instead of haggling over positions: separate people from the problem, focus on underlying interests, invent options for mutual gain, and judge outcomes by objective criteria — with your BATNA as the source of real leverage. It’s an influential framework grounded in decision theory and negotiation experience rather than a lab-tested protocol.
- Getting To Yes Summary
Getting to Yes (Fisher & Ury, of the Harvard Negotiation Project) argues for negotiating on the merits instead of haggling over positions: separate people from the problem, focus on underlying interests, invent options for mutual gain, and judge outcomes by objective criteria — with your BATNA as the source of real leverage. It’s an influential framework grounded in decision theory and negotiation experience rather than a lab-tested protocol.
- Getting To Yes Principled Negotiation After A Setback
Getting to Yes (Fisher & Ury, of the Harvard Negotiation Project) argues for negotiating on the merits instead of haggling over positions: separate people from the problem, focus on underlying interests, invent options for mutual gain, and judge outcomes by objective criteria — with your BATNA as the source of real leverage. It’s an influential framework grounded in decision theory and negotiation experience rather than a lab-tested protocol.
- Getting To Yes Principled Negotiation For My Teenager
Getting to Yes (Fisher & Ury, of the Harvard Negotiation Project) argues for negotiating on the merits instead of haggling over positions: separate people from the problem, focus on underlying interests, invent options for mutual gain, and judge outcomes by objective criteria — with your BATNA as the source of real leverage. It’s an influential framework grounded in decision theory and negotiation experience rather than a lab-tested protocol.
- Getting To Yes Principled Negotiation Under Stress
Getting to Yes (Fisher & Ury, of the Harvard Negotiation Project) argues for negotiating on the merits instead of haggling over positions: separate people from the problem, focus on underlying interests, invent options for mutual gain, and judge outcomes by objective criteria — with your BATNA as the source of real leverage. It’s an influential framework grounded in decision theory and negotiation experience rather than a lab-tested protocol.
- Getting To Yes Principled Negotiation When Overwhelmed
Getting to Yes (Fisher & Ury, of the Harvard Negotiation Project) argues for negotiating on the merits instead of haggling over positions: separate people from the problem, focus on underlying interests, invent options for mutual gain, and judge outcomes by objective criteria — with your BATNA as the source of real leverage. It’s an influential framework grounded in decision theory and negotiation experience rather than a lab-tested protocol.
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