Coaching practices for Give Before You Take Networking

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• I walk into these meetings already feeling like a supplicant with my hand out, and I can tell the other person feels it too and gets guarded
• Every time I reach out to someone new it’s because I want something from them, and it makes me feel slimy and them wary
• I only ever reach out to people when I suddenly need something from them, and it always feels mercenary because it is
• I eat lunch at my desk alone most days and let weeks slip by without really seeing anyone, telling myself I’m too busy
• I keep noticing that two people I know from totally different corners of my life really ought to meet

Practices that may help

1. Lead with generosity, not an agenda
   Enter every networking context asking what you can give, not what you can get.
   Never Eat Alone: Building a Real Network
2. Give before you take
   Lead every new relationship with concrete value before any ask.
   The Strength of Weak Ties
3. Build the network before you need it
   Invest in relationships continuously so you have real capital when a crisis or opportunity arrives.
   Never Eat Alone: Building a Real Network
4. Fill your social calendar intentionally
   Treat every meal, coffee, and event as a relationship-building opportunity and schedule them as such.
   Never Eat Alone: Building a Real Network
5. Make cross-cluster introductions
   Introduce two people from different clusters who genuinely benefit from meeting.
   The Strength of Weak Ties
6. Never Eat Alone: Building a Real Network
   Keith Ferrazzi’s approach treats networking as ongoing generosity rather than transactional deal-making: connect people, share knowledge, follow through, and show real interest. The evidence base is largely practitioner experience and case studies — honest about what it is — but the underlying principles align with well-studied reciprocity and social capital research.
7. Follow through on micro-commitments
   Always do the small thing you said you’d do — weak ties live or die on reliability.
   The Strength of Weak Ties
8. Become the connector in every room
   Make it your personal brand to know who should meet whom.
   Never Eat Alone: Building a Real Network
9. Follow up every meaningful interaction
   Send a specific, timely follow-up after every conversation that matters.
   Never Eat Alone: Building a Real Network
10. The five-minute favour
    Offer help that costs you five minutes but saves someone else hours.
    Give and Take: The Giver Advantage

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