Coaching practices for Give First Strategy

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• I always open with a "fair" number to seem reasonable and not greedy, and I keep ending up closer to their side than mine
• I always lead with the ask and then wonder why people put up walls
• I psych myself up to launch into action and then freeze because I haven’t actually pinned down what the first move even is
• I’ve got a salary talk coming up and I actually know what the role is worth, but my instinct is to hang back politely and let them say a number first
• A salary conversation is coming and I freeze on the number

Practices that may help

1. Anchor your opening near your end of the ZOPA
   Open ambitiously — but inside the plausible zone — to shift the expected settlement point in your direction.
   ZOPA: The Zone of Possible Agreement
2. Reciprocity
   Give something first — value, help, a concession — and people feel pulled to give back.
   Cialdini’s Principles of Influence
3. Pay Yourself First, Made Practical
   "Pay yourself first" means moving money toward your priority — saving — before discretionary spending can claim it, ideally automatically. It works not because of math but because of behavior design: defaults and automation remove the repeated willpower decision, and what leaves your account automatically rarely gets missed. This is a behavior principle, not financial advice.
4. Pair the count with a defined next action
   Decide the exact first physical move beforehand so the count has somewhere to land.
   The 5 Second Rule, Made Practical
5. Make the first offer (when you’re informed)
   When you know the value range, anchor first — the opening number drags the deal toward it.
   Anchoring Bias in Negotiation and Judgment
6. Use the door-in-the-face structure in salary and price negotiations
   In salary negotiation, opening high is partly a door-in-the-face move — your real ask lands against a high anchor.
   The Door-in-the-Face Technique, Made Practical
7. Expand the pie before you divide it
   In negotiations, surface what the other side actually values most before claiming your share.
   Give and Take: The Giver Advantage
8. Reverse the order: priority before leftovers
   Save first and spend what remains, instead of spending first and saving what remains.
   Pay Yourself First, Made Practical
9. Give genuine value before you make a request
   Lead with something useful — help, insight, attention — before any ask.
   The Rule of Reciprocity, Made Practical
10. Start with a minimal, easy-to-agree request
    The first ask should be small enough that virtually anyone would say yes.
    The Foot-in-the-Door Technique, Made Practical

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