Coaching practices for Giving Constructive Criticism to My Boss' Boss

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  • I send my boss the careful, detailed write-ups I’d want to receive and they barely skim them, and I keep blaming the content
  • I keep dropping problems on my boss’s desk and waiting for them to tell me what to do, and I can feel it reads as me not owning my work
  • No matter how carefully I word it, my feedback seems to land as me sitting in judgment over them from above
  • I think my boss is about to make the wrong call and I’m biting my tongue to keep the peace, then quietly stewing about it after
  • I keep taking my boss’s frustrating decisions personally, like they’re just choosing to make my life harder

Practices that may help

  1. Adapt to your manager’s communication style
    Match your manager’s preferred level of detail, pace, and channel — not theirs to yours.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  2. Bring a proposed solution when you bring a problem
    Describe the problem and your recommended path before asking for a decision.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  3. Establish shared purpose before delivering critique
    Frame critique as help toward a shared goal, not an evaluation from above.
    The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
  4. Disagree with your manager constructively
    State your disagreement clearly, give your reasoning, and then commit to the decision — without sacrificing either honesty or loyalty.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  5. Understand the constraints your manager operates under
    Ask about the pressures and constraints your manager faces — then factor them into your expectations and requests.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  6. Map your manager’s top three priorities
    Know what your manager is measured on and being pressured about — your work lands differently when it connects to that.
    Managing Up: Practical Skills for Working with Your Boss
  7. Make feedback flow in both directions
    Give timely, specific feedback — and ask for it on your own management.
    Effective One-on-Ones, Made Practical
  8. Make feedback specific and behavioral, not evaluative
    Describe what you observed, not what it says about the person.
    The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
  9. Make praise as specific as criticism
    Vague praise is nearly worthless; name exactly what was good and why.
    Radical Candor, Made Practical
  10. Ask for feedback before you give it
    Earn the right to challenge by inviting challenge yourself, first.
    Radical Candor, Made Practical

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