Coaching practices for Goal Setting Self Esteem

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• My days are just whatever circumstances throw at me
• I set the intention and then just hope I’m doing it
• The moment I hit a setback I take it as a verdict that I’m just not good enough and start pulling away to protect myself
• Every time I set goals they end up being what I think I’m supposed to want
• The moment a goal gets hard I lose all sense of why I’m even doing it

Practices that may help

1. The practice of living purposefully
   Set goals, pursue them deliberately, and monitor whether your actions match your intentions.
   The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, Made Practical
2. Use self-regulatory goals and progress monitoring
   Set specific goals, monitor your progress toward them, and adjust based on the gap.
   Social Cognitive Theory
3. Adopt a mastery goal orientation, not just a performance one
   Pursue goals to get better, not just to look good — especially for long-range work.
   Goal Setting Theory, Made Practical
4. Excavate core values before writing goals
   Identify what you most fundamentally care about before deciding what you want — or goals will be other people’s.
   The Life Crafting Intervention: Scripting Your Future Self
5. Anchor each goal to a named, personal value
   Make the goal an expression of a specific value so it stays motivating when difficulty peaks.
   Self-Concordant Goals, Made Practical
6. Invoke the possible self during setbacks
   When you fail or stall, return to the hoped-for self — not to the outcome goal — as your re-orienting anchor.
   Possible Selves, Made Practical
7. Shift the goal from high self-esteem to authentic self-regard
   Stop trying to feel good about yourself and start aiming for honest, compassionate self-knowledge.
   Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem
8. Orient toward mastery rather than performance comparison
   Set goals against your own past standard rather than against others.
   Approach vs Avoidance Goals
9. Define success by growth and contribution, not scorekeeping
   Shifting the success metric from achievement tallies to personal growth and impact changes what you optimise for — usually for the better.
   Goal-Free Living: When Process Beats Destination
10. Build expectancy through mastery experiences, not just affirmations
    Expectancy — the belief that you can succeed — grows from actual small wins, not self-talk.
    Expectancy-Value Theory: Why You Try (or Don’t)

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