Coaching practices for Goals and Feedback

Describe almost anything you are working through and IX Coach finds the practices whose real-world fit is closest. For Goals and Feedback, these are the strongest matches in the current practice library.

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  • I set a goal and then just go quiet on it, never checking where I actually stand until the deadline ambushes me
  • All the feedback I get is about whether I hit the target, and none of it touches the assumptions underneath how I’m even seeing the situation
  • I’ve only ever set myself one kind of goal
  • No matter how carefully I word it, my feedback seems to land as me sitting in judgment over them from above
  • My feedback conversations end with the person nodding and saying "yeah, makes sense, got it"

Practices that may help

  1. Close the loop with regular, specific feedback
    Goals without feedback are motivationally inert — feedback is the other half.
    Goal Setting Theory, Made Practical
  2. Seek developmental feedback, not just performance feedback
    Ask for feedback that challenges your assumptions about how you see, not just how you perform.
    Kegan’s Subject-Object Theory, Made Practical
  3. Understand the three-goal hierarchy: outcome, performance, process
    Use all three goal types — but know which one to focus on during execution.
    Process Goals, Made Practical
  4. Establish shared purpose before delivering critique
    Frame critique as help toward a shared goal, not an evaluation from above.
    The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
  5. Close feedback by checking understanding, not agreement
    Ask "What did you take from that?" rather than "Do you agree?"
    The Feedback Sandwich: Why It Doesn’t Work and What to Do Instead
  6. Debrief against process goals, not just the outcome
    After performance, evaluate whether you executed your process goals before evaluating the result.
    Process vs. Outcome Goals in Sport and Performance
  7. Calibrate stretch with a target score
    Aim where hitting ~70% is a strong result, so comfort means you aimed too low.
    OKRs for People, Not Just Companies
  8. Feedforward: Future-Focused Feedback That Actually Changes Behavior
    Feedforward, developed by executive coach Marshall Goldsmith, replaces backward-looking critique with forward-looking suggestions — asking "what ideas do you have for the future?" rather than "what did I do wrong?" The core claim is that people are more receptive to ideas about what they could do than to judgments about what they did. Evidence is primarily clinical and practitioner-based rather than from controlled trials.
  9. Build a three-level goal hierarchy
    Stack outcome goals (direction), performance goals (benchmarks), and process goals (moment-to-moment focus) in a single structure.
    Process vs. Outcome Goals in Sport and Performance
  10. Review process goal execution separately from outcomes after each performance
    Evaluate how well you executed your process goals independently of whether you won or lost.
    Process Goals, Made Practical

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