Coaching practices for How Can I Become More Authentic is Authenticity Something That Can Be Learned and Developed

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• I’m so used to managing how I come across that I’m not even sure people know the real me
• I’ve read all the tips about eye contact and posture, but the harder I work to perform the right body language the more wooden I feel
• When a feeling grabs me I become it
• Whenever I try to act like the person I want to be
• With the person closest to me I’ve fallen into playing a role, and the most real parts of me stay tucked away

Practices that may help

1. Cultivate authenticity
   Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and show up as who you actually are.
   The Gifts of Imperfection, Made Practical
2. The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
   Olivia Fox Cabane’s core claim is that charisma isn’t an innate gift but a set of trainable behaviors built from three ingredients: presence (being fully here), warmth (you like and accept them), and power (you can affect the world). It’s a practitioner framework rather than a tested protocol, though its parts rhyme with research on nonverbal behavior, warmth-competence, and attention.
3. Fix the inner state, not the outer mask
   Your body language broadcasts your real internal state — so change the state, not the surface.
   The Charisma Myth, Made Practical
4. Make the subject-object move
   Turn something that has you ("I am anxious") into something you have and can examine ("I notice anxiety in me").
   Self-Authorship: Moving From the Socialized to the Self-Authored Mind
5. Build self-familiarity with new identities through low-stakes repetition
   Repeatedly acting in a new way — even in small doses — makes the new behavior feel like you.
   The Mere Exposure Effect, Made Practical
6. Apply strengths consciously in your most important relationships
   Identify how your signature strengths are showing up — or failing to show up — in the relationships that matter most.
   VIA Character Strengths, Made Practical
7. Model the values you expect (idealized influence)
   Become a living example of the values you want your team to hold.
   Transformational Leadership, Made Practical
8. Acquire tacit knowledge through extended immersive practice
   To develop know-how you cannot be taught, you must perform it repeatedly in authentic contexts.
   Tacit Knowledge: The Skill You Can’t Fully Explain
9. Earn the right to deepen the relationship in stages
   Trust compounds over time — start with technical credibility and expand into intimacy as it is earned.
   The Trust Equation, Made Practical
10. Look for genuine benefits without forcing them
    Authentic benefit-finding — identifying real ways the experience changed you — aids adjustment; manufactured benefit-finding does not.
    Meaning-Making Coping, Made Practical

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